the_abecedarian
@the_abecedarian@piefed.social
- Comment on How does a guy become his most confident around women? 1 week ago:
If the confidence you want is for dating purposes, you need to get comfortable with:
- figuring out what situations you're comfortable in where single women are present: not one for clubs and bars? What about pickleball or ceramics or a book club? Try new things that have some chance of having people you want to date.
- figuring out what specifically makes you uncomfortable, then facing it. Is it fear of rejection? Fear of being vulnerable? Certain kinds of social situations? Understand that rejection is part of learning and vulnerability is required (in appropriate amounts based on context) to connect.
- don't hyperfixate on any one woman or one event. Spotted a baddie? Go for it if she seems open to interaction, but don't make getting her contact info into a make or break for your whole night.
- learn to spot cues and hints that someone is or isn't into having or continuing an interaction: is she trying to put effort into conversion with you or shutting it down (even politely)?
- Stay a million miles away from the toxic "manosphere" and their incel fuckery. There is nothing of value there. - Comment on Why is so hard for musicians to have a good living and be famous? 2 weeks ago:
Agreed, its just a bit of a different structure now
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
We deserve an internet that is not merely a surveillance farm for billionnaires and governments.
- Comment on Why is so hard for musicians to have a good living and be famous? 2 weeks ago:
It's not the musicians' fault. https://www.versobooks.com/blogs/news/5006-new-hegemonies-streaming-platforms-and-music-production
Nothing under a capitalist economy is rewarded for merit, only profitability for the business owner or shareholders
- Comment on Which ia better etiquette? 3 weeks ago:
Do whatever your hosts do with theirs
- Comment on It really fucks with my recommendations, but fuck em™ 3 weeks ago:
Spotify wants this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1sNsrwokPSY
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Cool yeah I need to look into liquid democracy more.
I'm sorta ambiguous about the law -- it is always a blunt tool in that it can't possibly cover every situation (despite judicial contortions) and every person's particular circumstances. It ages badly and can be hard to keep it up with changing times.
At this point, though, I'm willing to accept laws written and passed by community assemblies, covering their community. It'd be a huge step forward anyway.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
I don't exactly know what it'd mean to merge the judiciary and executive. If we're just tinkering with the system, the most democratic parts of the system are the US House of Representatives, UK House of Commons, and similar population-based representation, so I'd want to expand them at the others' expense.
I don't believe that will solve much, though. In a hierarchical society, those on top will use any existing govt structures to their benefit, having more control when there is less democracy. In general, I believe in spreading power so thinly that it effectively disappears. Instead, people affected by a decision should be the ones to make it, not merely to vote for those who promise to do right by them.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Disagree in general that it can empower the marginalized -- it is at most a reflection of the power that the marginalized can sometimes use, either because they did things like strike or organize in the past, or because they have access to powers won by less marginalized people.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
The law is just an expression, more or less up-to-date, of the existing balance of power between those who have power and those who don't
- Comment on What are your approaches to donating? 5 weeks ago:
Donate locally, to smaller organizations doing important work in your area. Your money will be so much more meaningful than a few extra dollars to a national organization or a politician. Mutual aid organizations are a good example.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 weeks ago:
Cops have no reason to put forth effort unless you're at least locally important or someone above leans on them to make their numbers/look like they're doing something.
Also is it "justice" to put someone in jail? Let's say there's no way to return what was stolen (money spent, property sold/destroyed etc). It certainly doesn't stop them from doing more crime, it tends to force them into doing more bc it makes them less hirable and more economically desperate. It doesn't make your situation any better either. It's just more money for the prison companies.
- Comment on Why does America feel the need to control the world? Do what they say? Instead of taking care of their own problems at home? When did the US become police officer of the world and enforcer? 5 weeks ago:
There are privileges to being an empire and the capitalists in the US continue to use that empire to get access to those privileges. Favorable trade, commercial, and financing terms are a big one.
Also the US war industry pushes the country to intervene. You can see how there are interventionist and isolationist movements in the US fighting right now over how much the US gets directly involved in Iran-Israel.
- Comment on Patreon will increase the cut it takes from new creators 5 weeks ago:
- Comment on Why is DOGE still around if Donny and Elon aren't getting along? 1 month ago:
So doge is doing that work. Why get rid of it if it does what they want?
- Comment on Why is DOGE still around if Donny and Elon aren't getting along? 1 month ago:
DOGE is not just a Musk thing. Privatizing government has been a long term goal of the republicans and capitalists for a very long time
- Comment on Discord's CTO is just as worried about enshittification as you are 1 month ago:
Well if he does anything to stop it, the board of directors will remove him.
- Comment on Every news result on duckduckgo links to MSN 1 month ago:
Try searxng
- Comment on Let's play this game again 2 months ago:
This is amazing and should be in a tabletop rpg session
- Comment on Let's play this game again 2 months ago:
Telekinesis
- Comment on 7 for me 2 months ago:
What, no formalwear option?
- Comment on Iceland approved the 4-day workweek in 2019: nearly 6 years later, all the predictions made have come true. 2 months ago:
Looks like they're making their own happiness!
- Iceland approved the 4-day workweek in 2019: nearly 6 years later, all the predictions made have come true.farmingdale-observer.com ↗Submitted 2 months ago to workreform@lemmy.world | 55 comments
- Comment on 2 months ago:
Tolerating them is a form of support. They make spaces unsafe for others.
- Comment on GlobalX, airline used for Trump deportations, gets hacked 2 months ago:
Now that is resistance
- Comment on Over 250 CEOs sign open letter supporting K-12 AI and computer science education 2 months ago:
CEOs, known to altruistically want what's best for children
- Comment on Should visitors to a country (tourist / visa-holders / people staying temporarily) have the right to criticize the government? When should an immigrant have the right to criticize the government? 3 months ago:
It's just an excuse. They want to get rid of him because they don't like his politics and he's an activist. Whether the state categorizes you as a citizen, resident, tourist, undocumented, etc. should have nothing to do with your right to speak out.