felsiq
@felsiq@lemmy.zip
- Comment on Most of you are alright but some of you are just ok 6 days ago:
I’m not sure I’d agree that morals are societal expectations, cuz imo you could still have a moral system in a vacuum and it’s relatively common to have a set of morals that disagrees (sometimes strongly) with what your own culture dictates as norms.
Like in my eyes my actions don’t need to be perceived to be subject to my own morality, and my culture’s perception of my actions also don’t affect their morality. As an extreme example, a citizen of nazi germany might have been perceived as immoral in their own culture for sabotaging nazis by assisting holocaust victims in hiding or escapes, but I don’t think most people would argue that makes that person immoral (probably the opposite). Obviously I’m not saying that’s your position in this, I know you already mentioned exceptions and that would def be one, just trying to show that a person’s morals can exist outside their culture’s perception of them.
IMO your morals are shaped by your culture the same way you’re shaped by your environment, but I definitely wouldn’t conflate them with societal expectations - I see them as a Venn diagram, where some expectations are based on morals but others are unrelated and aspects of a moral code can be independent of social expectations. Like I mentioned before, there’s social expectations around the way we dress that clearly have no moral basis, and examples of people morally dissenting from their culture’s norms are all thru history.
I definitely agree with your last point that a society where people don’t care about being moral can’t survive - but I’d argue like above that it’s not the outside perception (and resulting shame factor) that enforces morality but an individual sense of right and wrong that most people have and at least attempt to live by. There’s always gonna be people who simply don’t have or attempt to follow their own morals or sense of empathy ofc, but imo that’s what laws are for and trying to enforce norms with shame as well is unlikely to work on people who don’t have those things. Like you can’t shame a sociopath (also not a psychologist so using the colloquial meaning) into doing or not doing things - it’s just not a productive way to convince them to act pro-socially. IMO we should just enforce reasonable laws, stick to the tolerance contract, and ignore societal expectations as irrelevant- let people dress as they want and get up to whatever weird harmless shit all this pointless shame is repressing.
- Comment on Most of you are alright but some of you are just ok 6 days ago:
I’m not sure if I agree with this, imo morals and common sense are what people should follow and if society’s expectations can’t justify themselves using either then it’s the expectations that need to be adjusted. Living by expectations is too close to allowing outside shame to dictate your life for me personally, religions have weaponized that shit against us for too long already. In the not-too-distant past (and present, some places), following the expectations of society would mean LGBTQ+ people spending their lives closeted and unhappy and for what? Who benefits when people are afraid to step off the beaten path?
IMO the only social expectations that matter are the ones that can be backed up by moral or logical points, like not littering and treating other people like human beings with feelings, and if they need external justification to matter then clearly it’s not the expectations that are the relevant part. We have a lot of bullshit expectations we live with simply because we’re used to them, and breaking these expectations shouldn’t be occasional exceptions - it should just be what we do if we feel like it.
Someone was telling me about how she polices her daughter’s clothing recently and “has to” stop her from wearing stripes and polka dots together, and like… I get bonding with your kid by teaching them things, in this case fashion, and I’m not saying that’s a bad thing to do. But also, like, let lil girl rock her weird little shit if she wants to, what’s the harm? The social expectations are just stifling her experimentation with style, and they’re doing literally no good to anybody. Modern society crushes and commercializes your individuality anyway, it doesn’t need help.
Anyway sorry for hitting you with a huge rant outta nowhere but being authentic to yourself is a core belief of mine (where it’s not toxic to do so, anyway) and I’ve wasted literally years of my life trying to figure out what’s actually me and what’s just social expectations I was unconsciously shaped by, so this shit activates my sleeper agent mode lmao
- Comment on riders on the storm 1 week ago:
I’ve always wondered if the hugs were distributed evenly or if there was a hugs georg firefly and the rest were normal ones
- Comment on Excel having a stab at dates 1 week ago:
Time is a pain in the ass and unfortunately not this simple, since it’s affected by energy and doesn’t pass at constant rates. The amount of time that’s passed since the Big Bang is different on earth than it is on a neutron star, for example, so one fundamental reference time isn’t possible the way it is for other units.
- Comment on Was surprised by these stats 1 week ago:
Alright who’s posting this one to best of lemmy
- Comment on Where's the couch, JD? 1 week ago:
Is that his real face? Or is it fatter? Less fat? I’ve lost track of reality after all the memes, but I kinda like it this way
- Comment on It's a tragedeigh 2 weeks ago:
As a way to simplify, I’ve always like GSM: Gender and Sexual Minorities. Seems to encompass everything without prioritizing any of the letters, and doesn’t require choosing an arbitrary stop point for which letters to list or not list.
- Comment on Just lost internship at general electric 2 weeks ago:
I think it was a she, but you’re probably still right
- Comment on Tis the time 3 weeks ago:
Oh rip I haven’t listened to their new stuff and had never heard them called tøp lmao thanks
- Comment on Tis the time 3 weeks ago:
Trench? Tøp? Can someone eli5 please lol
- Comment on The Legends is among us 4 weeks ago:
Gonna state all my assumptions cuz I don’t think we’re talking about the same thing here:
The bot I’m referring to is the discord bot that mod made, that monitors discord activities and bans discord users who play league for >30min. The code shown matches what I’d expect for that bot’s programming if python was used to create it, and doesn’t have anything to do with GDScript other than the mostly shared syntax between the two languages. I don’t think GDScript is likely outside a godot environment, and this bot is running on the discord side and not the game side.
Sorry if this is still a shitty explanation of how I read the meme, brain isn’t braining right now lol
- Comment on The Legends is among us 4 weeks ago:
It seems to match the discord bot api from python and that’d be a more logical choice for a bot lol
- Comment on spinosarus let's gooooo 4 weeks ago:
It’s fucked up how talented he is, I love seeing whatever he makes
- Comment on How to celebrate Pride 4 weeks ago:
If they aren’t load-bearing at first, they will be when it’s over
- Comment on Caption this. 4 weeks ago:
It was at least half joking, but I am genuinely curious how the finger in his ass would straighten the urethra. Is it the internal part of the urethra that needs straightening, and if so, can you really just push it around from the anus like that?
- Comment on Caption this. 4 weeks ago:
When you say “straighten out the urethra”, is that professional medical-speak for “fingerblast his p spot to get him hard”?
- Comment on Ke$he's Quantum Party 4 weeks ago:
I think Ken M has this
- Comment on Bad boys, bad boys, what you gonna do 1 month ago:
Oh I just assumed it was loss but didn’t actually see it till now, so figured markdown struck again lmao
- Comment on Bad boys, bad boys, what you gonna do 1 month ago:
I think markdown ate your newline, you gotta put two spaces at the end of the last line or it just ignores line breaks
- Comment on People in here really hate shitposts 1 month ago:
FistingEnthusiast
committing to the burn
I’m just gonna accept that you know what you’re talking about on this one
- Comment on What did he see? 2 months ago:
Profanity: None
is so wild to me, how did bro not curse or make any noise at all
- Comment on Who's That Pokémon? 2 months ago:
Okay the monsters from that game were cool and all but nothing compares to Eugene, I love him so much
- Comment on lllyasviel/FramePack: generate 60 seconds videos at 30fps using a 13B model with just 6GB VRAM 2 months ago:
Holy shit the fact you can generate something like this photorealistic video of a dude writing with a fuckin 2060 is wild to me
- Comment on Tigers 🐅 🐯 2 months ago:
Yeah the only one I can think of are sloths, which is kinda cheating cuz their green color comes from algae in their fur instead of natural pigmentation lol
Glad to have it confirmed tho, thanks! - Comment on Tigers 🐅 🐯 2 months ago:
I’ve also heard green coloring is hard to achieve for mammals, but iirc the source was some tumblr post so take that with a grain of salt.
- Comment on You probably brighten peoples' day in ways you probably don't even know, just like this one lonely maga! 3 months ago:
Aww they’re here already
- Comment on pain plant 3 months ago:
Sriracha sauce, it’s really good
- Comment on goddammit Ralph 3 months ago:
This is hilarious, but serious answer some dogs will lick their paws raw and bloody even while you’re treating the original problem so asking them not to is sometimes necessary
- Comment on Doctor Yiff 4 months ago:
Isn’t this entire comic just transcribing a tumblr thread?
- Comment on Fruit 4 months ago:
What app/frontend are you using that allows tagging users? Sounds like a cool feature