Paragone
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- Comment on How do I remove bird poop from cement and/or metal surfaces? 1 hour ago:
Bird-urine is white, their poo is brown/dark.
Washing-soda or baking-soda ( & if kids are going to be playing on it, or someone’s going to be picnicking on it ) in a weak HE-laundry-detergent solution.
( urine is acidic: the alkali in the washing-soda or baking-soda neutralizes it )
scrub/soak
then rinse.
hth.
- Comment on You know how some medications numbs your emotions... so what happens if you're on those medications and you receive news of a close family member dying, do you like... not have any emotions over it? 1 day ago:
Correct about being dead-inside, on some of those chemicals.
Mind-you, sometimes medication is the currently-right-answer, but I find psychiatry’s devotion to a perpetually-medicated population to be the wrong paradigm.
IF medication’s required, THEN can it be made to be not required, in the future, through engineered-healing, somehow??
That isn’t how Western medicine worked, when I was engaging with it ( I’m autistic, then a brain-injury survivor, & spent much of many days catatonic, for years, late last century ).
When you’re zonked on their drugs, though, you’re zonked, & it affects you consistently-enough that good cops’ll figure-out that you’re medically-drugged probably without even having to ask.
I remember seeing a newspaper photo of an arrested murderer-suspect, & immediately thought: zonked on antidepressant ______ … & then when I read the article, yeah, they were.
Going up against neurological-damage … COSTS one, but … depends on the person, you know?
Some’d rather die than live drugged ( me ), & others just want life to be easier…
Please understand this, though: alcohol & marijuana both can produce the same result.
There used to be a subreddit called r/leaves which was people who wanted to be living again, instead of deadened the way THC does…
( & all the people who pretend that THC “helps” autism, no, it hides the symptoms it doesn’t help reduce the problem and they don’t care: marijuana-cult is a cult, as I was forced to learn, some years ago )
It isn’t only pharmaceuticals which produce the effect you’re asking about…
hell, sometimes trauma can obliterate a person’s emotional-functioning!
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- Comment on Y'all ever have intrusive thoughts about accidentally dropping stuff in storm drains? (particulary when you have your phone out) And like if that happens, wtf is someone supposed to do? 3 days ago:
IF your unconscious-mind is playing that kind of game, AND you give-in to it, THEN it gets stronger, in its subjugation of your life to its bullying.
Give it NO ground, & don’t budge on that.
All your life, if required.
The people who give-in to their unconscious-ignorance’s ordering them to murder people, because they felt if they just-gave-in, then the unconscious-mind’s bullying would relent … don’t get the result they were making-believing-in:
bullying which gains compliance, grows and that should be obvious.
that is true of all unconscious-ignorance’s bullying, small or great.
Give it no ground, & set about consolidating your control/ownership/possession of YOUR life, against that kind of thing.
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- Comment on Not to get political however How did J Epstein die? Usually suicide watch they put you in a specialized suit so it's impossible. So given if they did that like law says how did he commit suicide? 3 days ago:
Strangled with a cord.
the photo of his corpse shows the marks on his neck from that cord.
The cloth he “supposedly” was strangled-with wouldn’t have put those marks on his neck.
There’s a yt mortician who identified this stuff.
& the fact that suicides tend to have 0 or 1 vertebra broken, but Epstein had 3 broken…
& the security-video which wasn’t supposed to have any record of the guy in orange who went into that area, but did ( somebody whose job was to prevent evidence … fucked up )
& the authorities make baldfaced “that isn’t significant” … when it fucking obviously was significant … decisions…
& on & on & on…
There’s a former mafia man, Michael Firenzese, who’s got multiple Epstein videos, & 1 of those has on its thumbnail a marionette style image, so large dark hand above, & … 2, iirc, marionettes, with Epstein being 1 of 'em…
That video identifies enough evidence that now I understand why he was able to get away with the absurd degree of impunity he had…
CIA, Mossad, AND KGB seem to have been working with him.
When the FBI wanted him put away, they were ordered to back off, being informed he was an intelligence asset…
So, then the question of who was using who? comes up…
He was using the intelligence-agencies to gain power/influence, he was getting kompromat/blackmail on everybody, he was sharing that, for a price of some kind, with multiple agencies, selectively, they were using him, NOBODY is being made accountable for raping girls, he apparently murdered multiple girls, some buried “out back” he said, & he bought 330t of sulfuric-acid … probably for eradicating other inconvenient evidence, & Maxwell ( or somebody whose perspective is identical to hers ) murdered a girl to prove herself to her “husband” … there reaches a point where there’s no point in pretending that this is in any way, whatsoever sane.
1 guy who was talking about having met him said the hair on the back of his neck was standing on end, & he knew this guy was evil.
I’d believed that I’d had that kind of sense ( have evidence of having got that kind of judgement right, in the past ), but … whatever darkness-sense I’ve got didn’t work with Epstein, in that video Bannon made of him…
The repeated asking by Bannon “do you believe you are the devil” or something like that … & his careful non-response … he may have so believed, tbh…
Anyways, more info than you asked, but the whole thing has evidence scattered everywhere, & the key items need to be consolidated, properly, so people can see & understand, for real…
Years ago, there was the Iran-Contra affair… a guy who dug into that told me the more he knew, the less he could figure-out who the “good guys” were supposed to be…
This is the same, only more so.
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- Comment on New homeless village offers 'brilliant solution' that organisers want to bring to a town near you 1 week ago:
I’ve tried telling people that even a 8’x12’ bunkie ( 3 plywood sheets for the floor ) is drastically better than either the sidewalk or the local homeless-shelter, & that just getting people their own shelter/space ought be the primary concern…
those are luxury-apartments, by comparison.
You can house many more people in bunkies than you can in expensive modular-homes, if you are budget-limited…
Maybe my 7+ years of outright-homelessness have biased me towards help everybody orientation, but … the lives you “can’t afford” to help are lives, too.
Maslow’s hierarchy-of-needs, you know?
Get everybody up into life-safety, & then work on the higher-levels later…
They’re doing good work, but the not-included … die.
The streets are destructive in ways that mere-circumstance can’t possibly communicate.
The toxic culture, the prejudice, the randomly being robbed… the not having any legal right to participate in any online-transaction, because you’ve no address…
grinds you towards death, fast…
So does exposure…
( UK that may not be as much of a thing: in Canada it’s kinda lethal, in winters )
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- Comment on Consumers urged to ‘completely avoid’ UK-caught cod as population plunges 1 week ago:
From the Canadian perspective, it isn’t the fish’s decline, it is that their coral-forests-breeding has been wiped-out by dragger-nets, & the fishery’s permanently broken, because that takes about a century to grow back to a height of 2-dm, & they rather probably need more than that, to be breeding in??
Dragger-nets are marine-ecology “carpet-bombing”.
No gov’t will outlaw such idiotic destructiveness, & so … therefore the predicted-in-the-Christian-bible marine-foodchain-collapse, that our “management” of our world’s oceans is in the process of producing, will happen, later this century.
< shruggeth >
Humankind’s choice…
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- Comment on If Peaceful Gaza Protest is Criminal, What is Left of UK Freedom? 1 week ago:
Despicable abuse.
Pick a side: totalitarianism XOR civilrights.
Civilrights means making a “bathtub-curve” for legal-action: as wide & deep as can be consistently managed, with the illegal stuff out at the ends.
Making it so that laying flowers, in protest, at the BBC or at the feet of the cops limiting the progress of the protest is a crime … the root-guru of the Christians, benJoseph, got physically violent on the commercial-operation of the temple, & the UK’s fundamentally Christian … so, they’d have had him crucified, not freed, from the looks of things, now…
After the tippingpoint’s crossed, the natural tendency will be to go MUCH harder line totalitarian authoritarian, but it’s possible that the UK will suddenly switch sides…
Wait & see, I guess, same as with all countries that claim democracy…
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- Comment on How would I even start an investigation into my states use of marijuana money? How to keep it covert with gathering alot of info? And find freinds in power to help me out. 1 week ago:
Buy 2 good books ( different authors ) on becoming a private investigator.
Read them.
Hit Nolo press, & buy their book on legal-research.
Read it.
Now you have 2 understanding-sets that normal-people don’t have, & you can begin digging into institutional-crimes much more competently than normals could.
BellingCat would be an advisable set-of-learnings, too.
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- Comment on Do we know how much apps would cost if we had to replace as revenue with subscription fees? 1 week ago:
Remember that infinite-greed is part of the equation, though…
IF revenue MUST increase, no matter what the cost-to-the-world, THEN … the example of covid supermarket-profits-skyrocketing, while people couldn’t afford food, comes to mind…
That is part of the problem with concentration-of-wealth-archy paradigm & moneyarchy paradigm: they’ve both got infinities in their goals, that is infinite-concentration-of-wealth, & that breaks civilization’s viability.
The 2 equation-classes are incompatible.
Public-benefit-companies are where we ought be, but … there isn’t even that category of incorporation in Canada, ttbomk…
We, globally, have NOT been solving the right problems…
Internet-itself, & social-discussion-forum ought be considered required-civil-infrastructure, removing it from narcissistic-depravity’s control, … but nobody’s got the spine to understand that countries are automatically highjacked, otherwise, by the platforms that the country’s social-nervous-system is.
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- Comment on Most of plant based leather uses a lot of polyurethane 1 week ago:
I hadnt thought of that:
good point!
Not that anybody’ll actually do it, but it could be done.
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- Comment on Most of plant based leather uses a lot of polyurethane 1 week ago:
Herdbeasts are sentient: they are “others”.
They don’t want to be slaughtered: we care more about using meat from their bodies for a momentary meal than we care about their lives-themselves.
That is OUR values.
& our being sociopathic doesn’t make sociopathy universally-right or universally-valid.
( I’m not vegan, but universe has beaten learning into me until I’ve come around to seeing the prejudice in our whole “civilized” “relationship” with reality )
TTBOMK, vegetable-tanning isn’t done as much because it costs more.
& the original person’s comment about chromium-salts looks spot-on, & was ignored by your counter.
Just pointing out some stuff for objectivity, is all: integrity’s a precious-resource, & it takes all of us being loyal to it, to make it remain in our world.
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- Comment on Most of plant based leather uses a lot of polyurethane 1 week ago:
Chromium-based tanning is only 1 kind of tanning, but yeah, chromium’s one of those chemicals which needs to be limited more-carefully, among our ecologies.
Vegetable-based tanning also exists, & I’m no expert, so there could be multiple way I don’t know about.
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- Comment on Most of plant based leather uses a lot of polyurethane 1 week ago:
“TreeLeather” or something like that, was 1 brand of the cellulose “leather” stuff…
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- Comment on Why is stack overflow so horrible? 1 week ago:
When they attack you and delete your question or lock it because they don’t want “your kind” polluting their forum, that isn’t meritocracy: that is national-narcissism.
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- Comment on Why is stack overflow so horrible? 1 week ago:
Toxic-culture won.
Period.
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- Comment on Why do some people with college degrees and an education, still act so fucking stupid? 1 week ago:
Simpler & clearer:
Intelligence is solving-the-problem-efficiently/quickly…
Wisdom is realizing we’d been solving the wrong problem, & working-out what the right-problem is…
Wisdom’s meta-intelligence.
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- Comment on Why do some people with college degrees and an education, still act so fucking stupid? 1 week ago:
Why do billionaires/oligarchs do it?
Principle of Least Effort.
It isn’t particular to the “lower class” or to the “less educated” or to any particular faction of the population.
That’s normal.
Some people, no matter how you “slice” the population up, still act so fucking stupid.
'Tis a fact of life, is all.
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- Comment on What jobs do people from very upper-class wealthy families get? Or don't they have jobs and live off their families' wealth? 1 week ago:
Upper-middle class is doctor/lawyer/professor/diplomat.
Upper-class is power, not job.
Totally different categories.
Oligarchs are upper-class.
Monarchs are upper-class.
To the upper-class, job-people are hirable-dogs, not equals.
www.barnesandnoble.com/w/…/1111206189?ean=9780671…
Read that long-ago, & it has proved its right-framing consistently since then.
He got the fundamentals right.
There are other sub-class-systems, however:
The academic-class system, the financial-class system, etc.
But the fundamental givaway is this:
Power is what “validity” means in the upper-class.
Institution is what “validity” means in the middle-class. ( so, PhD is high-status within the middle-class, school-dropout is contemptible-inferior in their eyes ).
Money is what “validity” means in the working-class.
Underclass has its own hierarchy, too… street-bosses, etc…
The parent-child relationship is a class-system!
But Fussell’s right on the fundamental 3 categories in the class-system, & their “validity” anchorings.
The whole “Ivy League” thing is that it isn’t the skills you have , that make you valid, it is being in the power-clique that does.
That is upper-class.
So, there’s Venn-diagram intersection between raw-oligarchy & jobs … so truly-upper-class could well have jobs, but … it’s the power, not the grind, that true-upper-class is.
When your power-connections are more important than your in-organization-day-to-day-decisions, then you’re probably upper-class in mode, though your instinct may still be upper-middle-class, or financial-class ( which is above upper-middle-class ).
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- Comment on Has society or scientists ever solved definitively the Chicken and the Egg theory? Or is it just like a whose on first thing? 2 weeks ago:
Arthropods, for instance… Fish, too…
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- Comment on The way this egg peels in infuriating 2 weeks ago:
It’s either new/fresh, or old, eggs, that are hardest to peel.
The ice-bath after boiling is right, too, as it shrinks the egg within the shell, so peeling it is easier, as it’s already pulled-away…
You either got a too-new or too-old egg, & the white bonded to the shell-lining membrane.
The only method I know-of for defeating such impervious opponents, is simply to use a spoon inside the egg, to slice-away the egg from the inside of the shell.
Nothing else works, with those ones…
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- Comment on What is the point of abbreviations for short words when they do not reduce times significantly when you type? 2 weeks ago:
abbreviations can be visual-flags, for the reader of the item.
Makes finding key-passages quicker for them.
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- Comment on Can someone break down the real differences between kbin, mbin, Lemmy, and PieFed? I know they're all in the Threadiverse, but I'm not sure what the draw is to use one over another. 2 weeks ago:
In the minds of the politically-motivated, maybe.
Not all minds are politically-motivated.
The blunt fact that people are multidimensional, & some are high-integrity-in-work while being low-integrity-in-business, or are excellent-woodworkers-while-being-family-abusers … what a person is in 1 dimension oft has nothing to do with what they are in another.
Ideologues who insist otherwise are living within their ideology, not within actuality.
Spiders may creep many out, while their silk is one of the most astonishingly-awesome materials known.
their silk doesn’t itself creep people out…
but maybe ideologues hold that it has to be creepy because to them spiders themselves are creepy…
Cult-“thinking”.
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- Comment on Can someone break down the real differences between kbin, mbin, Lemmy, and PieFed? I know they're all in the Threadiverse, but I'm not sure what the draw is to use one over another. 2 weeks ago:
So you hold that ReiserFS instantly became evil when Hans Reiser murdered his wife, even-though ReiserFS was a filesystem, developed by multiple people … too?
There is a Principle, which the US Marines hold to:
nazis made more-protective helmets for their troops?
Steal the design, don’t accept their doctrine.
Someone made a better truck than we did?
Steal the design, don’t accept their doctrine.
That’s an excellent paradigm: differentiate between the technology vs the ideology.
People who hold that ideology is the whole of reality … do profoundly-idiotic things like insist “you can’t impliment efficiency, because the last person who pushed it was a nazi”.
Using an ideologue’s software to displace ideology, absolutely is valid use.
Same with any technology, like the barter-replacement called “money”: some uses are evil, others good, & some turn it into a religion, & many insist that because some make it a religion, therefore it “inherently” is a religion, & no other relationship with it could ever be valid…
Same with the technology of a “business”, by incorporating it as a Public Benefit Company, & operating it that way, even-though other corporations are operating as anti-benefit/anti-public companies.
The technology is itself, the origin is itself: they are independently themselves.
As Torvalds identified, once you release something in GPL-2, the community can’t have it taken-away from them: it’s theirs.
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- Comment on How would an anarchist society work? 2 weeks ago:
So, passengers in an airliner decide on managing the airliner, because they outvote the pilots!
Democracy!!
Democracy’s still a kind of “boss”, a kind of “archy”.
I hold that, exactly as vertebrates all show, you have to have a brain, & you have to have COMPETENCE & RESPONSIBILITY & ACCOUNTABILITY based brain.
Pilots, not majority-on-the-aircraft, fly the aircraft.
Those who reject how immune-systems work, including immunization/vaccination ( done right ), ought be prevented from voting on immunization programmes.
Those who aren’t living with the ability to get naturally pregnant, don’t have any business voting on women-specific health issues, including abortion.
Etc.
Not accountable in that domain? no vote.
Not responsible in that domain? no vote.
Not competent in that specific domain? no vote.
Period.
This makes me intolerable among many ideologues/ideologies.
Which is good.
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- Comment on How would an anarchist society work? 2 weeks ago:
You’ve also invented immune-systems, which fight pathogens & parasites, within our bodies…
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- Comment on How would an anarchist society work? 2 weeks ago:
There are 2 fundamental systems-understandings required, & you’ve hit on 1 of them: when you remove the good brain, an evil-brain fills the vacuum ( “nature abhors a vacuum” is a true sociopolitical-principle! )
Within your body, your brain is boss.
Period.
Go look at the biology of ALL VERTEBRATES and you will see that there is a “boss”, a brain, in ALL of them.
Now go look at coral, or bacterial-colonies, or jellyfish, & see what “no boss” means:
it caps the allowed-intentionality, the allowed-complexity, the allowed-effectiveness, the allowed-depth-of-meaning, that the organism CAN be.
Same with civilizations!
That’s the other principle.
So, so long as you’re willing to have a civilization which doesn’t include any parent-child relationships ( because “parent” & “boss” mean the same thing, in that relationship, especially with toddlers ), or ANY hierarchy-relationship ( teacher-student being another ), THEN true-anarchy is possible.
But then you’re limited, in pure-anarchy-form, to a few adults collaborating or not-collaborating, & you’ve removed medical-services ( which are hierarchical ), aviation ( ditto ), regulation ( disallowing pollution by “persons”, corporate OR individual ), education ( teacher/student ), etc.
You’ve removed team-research.
You’ve removed emergency-response-forces, which are hierarchical ( with good reason: consensus works when one has infinite-time to resolve anything, as Ikea does: better quality decisions … which take forever to resolve! … but in life-on-the-line-time-crunch, hierarchy wins, & that is objective fact.
The next time you see a ship sinking, while committees are forming aboard, to discuss possible-solutions, but nobody is either stopping the sinking or getting people into the lifeboats, then you’re looking at non-hierarchy’s consensus-perfection. )
IOW, the stunning amount of ignoring required to maintain that no-archy is valid, puts it far outside of Objectivity, putting it ONLY in the Ideology category.
The more-complex the civilization, the more-required it is to have teacher/student, to have regulation/doer ( to protect the commons ), to have parent/child relationship, to have science leading technology, to have child-protection-services, etc.
Vertebrates vs jellyfish showed this principle all along!
& if you’ve got a complex-civilization, & you remove the good-brain, … then there are ONLY 2 things that’d happen, left:
EITHER you’ve replaced the good-brain with automatic-systems, automating-away government with machine-learning, best-of-breed issue-solving mechanisms, automatic management of the economic dimensions ( measurement shows that these roads need repairing to keep future-costs down, that was automatically solved, contracts are automatically offered, automatically bid-on, etc, … AND things like … too-much-investment is going into these careers, & those careers are being understaffed, pay is now automatically altered ( supply-demand principle ) to make the understaffed careers more-attractive ), automatic management of pay-ladders, etc…
AND the economy is not-for-profit.
That’s actually required, too, btw…
DarkTriad { narcissism, machiavellianism, sociopathy-psychopathy } ISN’T COMPATIBLE with civilized flourishing, either incorporated-“person” or individual-authority DarkTriad!
Which political-system our world’s “wearing” is actually secondary to that!
Put DarkTriad in charge of ANY political-paradigm, & hell will be sooner or later enforced, obviously.
OR … organized-crime wins, & becomes the all-pervading boss. ( in East Germany, that was the gov’t itself, same as with Putin’s Russia )
It isn’t a political-will problem, it is a fundamental-human-nature problem, that can only be mitigated through rigging systems to make entire-categories-of-decisions for us, to remove our DarkTriad manipulation-of-world ( unconscious-bias OR conscious! ) from the equation.
The statistics that if you want someone convicted, just make them nonwhite, male, & low-education, or if you want them not convicted, then you make them white, female, & well-educated, is bias not objectivity-in-judging.
How can civilrights win against political-motivation when EVERYTHING we do is deformed by our unconscious biases??
& that deforming-of-process/deforming-of-results … isn’t mitigated by ideology ( which is bias ) or by political-regime ( which is just biased-framework ).
It can only be mitigated, by automating-out the decisions which ought not be political.
& that also means that we have to prevent DarkTriad people from even being eligible for authority-roles:
we have to filter them out, XOR we get Putin/Netanyahu/Millei/Trump, & the CCP ( whose snuffing of Tibet was as imperialist as anything the right has ever done, in spite of the ideological-ignoring of the communist-ideologues ).
Jellyfish ARE anarchy: but brainless.
Vertebrates AREN’T anarchy, having brains.
Civilizations embody the same archy pattern.
& this isn’t mere ideology: it is systems fact, all of history showing this.
Even true-ashrams are archy: LivingSpirit’s the “boss”/brain, not individual-politics, so it’s every bit as archy as any system can be, but it’s got a non-individual ( yin-G-D isn’t “individualistic” ) “brain”, is all.
Which brings-in another principle: self-centrism vs overall-centrism ( narcissism vs altruism ).
Without sorting THAT out, then the whole “anarchy vs archy” question’s false-framed.
How could narcissism produce healthy-world, either in no-archy OR in archy??
Humankind needs to outgrow that, XOR humankind’s being extinguished, in The Great Filter, this-century ( world-species equivalent to puberty: when will-multiplying-technology gets potent enough, AND population-saturation-frustration combine with consequences-of-trashing-our-ecological-basis, including ClimatePunctuation, THEN … Great Filter: grow-up XOR force-extinguish one’s own species ).
DarkTriad’s the fundamental problem, not degree-of-archy.
Individual DarkTriads contending for their “victory” in “anarchy” will quickly enforce “archy”, as some win, due to circumstance, or whatever, over the others.
Vertebrateness/archy only multiplies the power of the civilization: archy is a technology not a political-nature.
Evil’s the root-problem, not the technology-we-structure-civil-process-through, archy or otherwise.
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- Comment on Is cryptocurrency good for anything? 3 weeks ago:
Please read kobo.com/…/attack-of-the-50-foot-blockchain-bitco…
Steam STOPPED taking cryptocurrencies, because of the normal level of criminality in the people drenched in them… “you do NOT want to be doing business with these people”.
I’d use an Algorand-type blockchain for both accounting-records ( breaking “cooking the books” ) & for currency,
but then you’ve got monero which is engineered specifically to enforce that money-laundering is unbreakable, so that organized-crime can move money without any accountability ( I’m including criminal-government-entities, including insider-trading, in organized-crime ).
Nobody’s making the right infrastructure-decisions, … so whatever.
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- Comment on How do you fight abandonment issues when people keep abandoning you 3 weeks ago:
I’m coming at this from a totally different angle, and I’m not asking you to be the same kind of someone as I am, I’m only giving you this for sake of giving you a greater-scope map, so you can better-decide where you want to go, ok?
WHEN one has no honest-acceptance in any others, THEN … there are several directions one can try to go…
- one can try to gain belonging, while doing some work on making oneself more-acceptable ( 1/3 or less of one’s effort going into it, aka part-time )
- one can try to gain belonging, committing total-immersion, possibly with a job-change, to earn ( in 1/4-1/2y, or more ) enough identity-transformation to become more-belonging with the someones one wants to be belonging with ( realistically, 3y might be required: bootcamp SMASHES identity, & it still has to take 1/4y to do it gradually-enough that it isn’t killing people )
- other options I’ve never thought-of
- instead of earning having a home in someone-else’s heart, belonging, earn a home in one’s own heart: self-acceptance.
( there is a fundamental-principle that alone isn’t inherently lonely … that is actually just social-conditioning, including all the love-songs, all the stories, movies, advertising, etc.
Few people break the programming, however… )
Another point is that co-dependency is what’s normal, nowadays, but Stephen R. Covey ( 1st, not 2nd or 3rd: apparently they proliferate, when you aren’t watching 'em : ) spoke on interdependency…
I’m not sure if he understood just how independent people have to become, in order to be independently collaborating in inter-dependency…
but it’s turned-out to be real & significant.
People who’re codependent … simply aren’t standing on their own, collaborating autonomously, independently, as capable individuals…
& society’s wired to push codependency, because dependent-populations are more manipulatable, & therefore more easy-prey, if you see…
People who are self-determining … are much tougher to feed-on, for economic-parasites, ideological-parasites, or “pushers” of other kinds…
While nice in theory, that doesn’t help anyone understand how to earn such a transformation, right?
Simple: exactly as the root-guru of the Christians told us, face into karma … essentially, getting-addicted to growing-up!
He phrased it “take up your cross”, but the meaning’s clear.
( what a soul sows, that soul reaps: karma. there’s no escaping his meaning, once one understands that frame-of-reference )
So, what facing-into-karma would work-on-perfecting your greater-meaning?
I’m not asking you to tell me, any reader, I’m asking you to dig, & dig, & dig, until YOU understand what your greater-meaning is…
& once you’ve identified it, then make it ( if you want to ) your mission to get addicted to grinding-through your unconscious-ignorances, getting addicted to the realizations, to the growing-up process, & to the greater-freedom-of-self that that-process earns.
Here’s an orthogonal tip:
What makes a good partner for someone?
Some want a doormat, so their ego can feel “big”.
Boring.
Some want to be pushed by a domineer, until they reach something deep in themselves, that they can’t reach any other way…
Dig this, though:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anima_and_animus
See how what one wants in a partner changes, as one grows-up?
The final condition in that is wanting someone to be collaborating-with, while earning OUR way into realizing-our-souls, together…
A partner, not a use/having relationship.
Can you understand that if someone I treasure hates/despises me because of misunderstanding, or because of harm in them, or because of how wrong I’ve been, or ANY reason, that it’s fine?
So long as they’re being true to themselves, then they’re progressing, & their-progressing makes me happy.
If circumstance ever grants that they value me, fine. If not, that’s fine too.
They aren’t mine.
NO-one is “mine”, except me, see?
Independence, having broken the belonging-drug’s geas, can feel incredible.
& simply treasuring someone, regardless of where they are, or what they feel about one, wishing them well, wishing LivingSpirit to be taking-care-of-them…
it’s good for one, see?
Not as good as absolute-altruism, but I’m not there yet, & that’s fine…
So, all of this is simply to provide you with a greater “map” of the available territory, which the social-programming-management-process won’t ever tell anybody about…
& if you do a good mind-map of your current condition, & a good mind-map of what you want you to become, & you do a good here-to-there-transformations diagram, identifying what steps are required in each dimension, then you can progress more easily…
I’m recommending a very-few utterly-glorious books, for liberating your life from unconscious-dysfunction-habits that we were all programmed into:
Logan, King, & Dr. Fischer-Wright’s book “Tribal Leadership”, on the 5 culture-process levels ( street-gang/mass-shooter is 1, “LIVING IS SELF-INHERENTLY AWESOME” is 5, btw: 2 is the default )…
I’d require all highschoolers to read that, so as to OWN their own live-quality more, & not be so helpless in the social-processing-machine…
Kegan & Lahey’s book “Immunity to Change” which is on the mechanism our unconscious-mind has in it to fight off growing-up ( hence the title ), so as to protect dysfunction … & how to simply get past that dysfunction-protection-racket that we’ve got in us…
Schneider’s book “Lead Right for Your Company’s TYPE” I also recommend, because we’re all applying the wrong processes onto the projects/works that we’re trying to get done, by default, & THAT is obliterating our life-opportunities from our world!
Schneider puts it upside-down ( most authors who have profound-insights do 1 or more things dumb/wrong, in their books… I hope I outgrow that, but … bleah, on that unconscious-mind habit of making-mistakes! it’s quite noticeable in my writing ), putting the pie-in-the-sky Potential on the bottom, & putting the concrete Actuality on the top, of the 2x2 Matrix, but uprighted it’s brilliant what he gave us:
People-Centric Task-Centric Pie-in-the-sky Potential Quadrant 1. Growing, Learning, Healing school, hospitals, mentoring, life-coaching Quadrant 2. Science, Discovery, Exploring, Driven-Excellence products/services Concrete Actuality Quadrant 3. Consensus, Urban-Planning, Mediation Quadrant 4. 6-Sigma, command-and-control, Manufacturing Notice that in an industrial-accident, in a factory, then suddenly we’d be in ALL OTHER quadrants, except Quadrant-4:
( I’m thinking of that video I saw of a German steel-mill, with a giant noodle of brightly-glowing steel filling the plant, setting fire to anything it could, filling the place FAST, as the ur-example of “industrial accident”, for this example )
- Quadrant-1 getting the retrieved-casualties as healing as one can…
- Quadrant-2 discovering what the hell’s the cause of the messing-everything-up
- Quadrant-3 gaining consensus on “it’s been shut-down”, with no people left on the wrong page…
Why would knowing which frames-of-reference are valid for each of those quadrants affect one’s ability to have quality-relationship?
The more-completely one’s work takes care of itself, because one is now solving the right problem ( wisdom: solving the problem quickly is intelligence, but solving the right problem is wisdom, see? ) makes work more effortless, & that makes more of one’s effort be available for relationship!
I don’t understand why people don’t understand that principle better…
Right infrastructure reduces wasted-effort for all who are affected by that infrastructure ( I’m including software, legislation, public-works, community-harmony, everything we live among, rely-on, work-with, etc, as infrastructure ).
So, here’s the links to those 3 books, in case you, or any reader, want to earn greater freedom-of-your-life from frustrations:
www.kobo.com/…/tribal-leadership-revised-edition
www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/immunity-to-change-1
kobo.com/…/lead-right-for-your-company-s-type-1
& no, I’m not an “affiliate” of any book-company, any for-profit operation, & my not-for-profit hasn’t been started yet ( been working on understanding it for decades ), so all this is just-me recommending stuff.
Good books multiply one’s capability!
Oh, that too!
Please also read John Truby’s book “The Anatomy of Genre”, to understand how we program our unconscious-minds with the 14 genres, which genre works-on which dimension-of-our-unconscious-mind, so maybe you can progress quicker in earning YOUR essence & meaning…
www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/the-anatomy-of-genres
He makes 2 ( plus? ) noticeable mistakes in his book, but he’s of US culture, so … those are kinda expected:
- the true Archetypal Village isn’t the Wild West Village of the late-1800’s US, rather, it is the Mother Tribal Village, of the entire previous 2-million years, in the tribal lands of the world.
He grew-up with westerns, so … that pushed him into wrong-framing…
- the root of humor is the moebius-strip, aka the strange-loop, not the put-down/drop, as US & English cultures have it.
I’d never have clued-in to the truth, but Hofstadter’s GEB identified this back in the last century.
Being walked around in a circle… but now one’s upside-down for some reason??
THAT is the “shape” of humor.
Surprisingly-violated-expectations!
Aside from those 2 botches, that book of Truby’s is massive psychology advantage for anyone wanting to understand what their own unconscious-mind’s working-on, what others are working-on, what one’s culture considers meaningful, etc…
So, anyone who wants to dig-in, enjoy!
All paths are valid, just some are more-efficient, others more-effective, etc.
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you sure as hell don’t need to be outright-homeless to be in poverty. That’s born into destitution not mere-poverty ( the working-poor, in less-than-living-wage, are in poverty, but at-least they’ve got some lifeline, temporarily ).
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In some countries, there is a safety-net of some kind.
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tropical-contexts are MUCH less dangerous than nordic contexts, for this question.
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yes, education & employment & online-shopping & library-card, etc, all require that a person be not homeless, that they have a “legal address” that isn’t a post-office box.
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would the child be taken away, to care for them? Hoomin, in some countries there are harvesting of children for organ-removal, or for plain extermination: homeless/underclass lives are garbage in many institutions/class’s eyes… you’ve obviously never lived homeless for years.
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to great extent it depends on the culture, more than anything else. & individual-person’s-culture changes, throughout life ( people tend to become more conservative in some ways, as they get older, though that doesn’t mean moneyarchy-conservative, that can mean philosophically-conservative, or spiritually-conservative, or whatever, but the tendency is general & well-attested )
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What magical-factor would somehow “prevent” being homeless-from-birth, globally?? That doesn’t even make any sense.
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- Comment on What is likely to happen when/if trump dies? 3 weeks ago:
Unfortunately, he won’t:
that prophecy in the Christian bible’s Rev 13, the one about the “miraculous cure”, meant him.
You’ll see in March/April of this year ( 2026 ).
When he does die, about 7/2y after turning absolute-dictator, he’ll be replaced by either Musk, Kushner, or some equivalent, possibly Miller or Hegseth or one of the other cronies.
Things are about to get bad.
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