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• Samskara@sh.itjust.works ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Football (sports fandom in general) is one of the few spaces where manly men have a safe space to express all their emotions in a supportive group setting: anger, hate, joy, sadness, love, enthusiasm, and so on.

  Men are often sanctioned by women when they show weakness. So this is a very important psychological, social, and therapeutic space for men. It’s an outlet for suppressed emotions, which is healthy.

  You might think it’s silly, but it’s a good and healthy institution and custom.

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  • partial_accumen@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Men are often sanctioned by women when they show weakness.

    I’m a man. It is extremely rare for me to experience this firsthand. I can count on one hand how many times in my entire life, and its been decades since the most recent time/ Even then it wasn’t criticism from a woman was close to me.

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    • BladeFederation@piefed.social ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      It’s usually pretty subtle. People will quietly lose respect for you and shut you out over time.

      That being said, I dont give a shit about people’s perception of my manliness or sexuality. I’m straight, trained in martial arts and boxing, can shoot well, can fix things around the house decently well, moderately know my way around a car. But I’ll be sensitive and open with my feelings if I want to, which is frequent. I cry at weddings, funerals, sad movies, and even when I think about how lucky I am to have my wife. I joke about kissing the homes goodnight, and flirt back with gay dudes that hit in me (without leading them on).

      I’m often DISAPPOINTED in people for how they react and judge sometimes, but always happier when those people remove themselves from my life. I never let it affect who I am.

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  • sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Men are also often sanctioned by other men when they show weakness.

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    • samus12345@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Far more often than by women, in fact.

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  • Soapbox@lemmy.zip ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I’m a straight guy who despises football. Even the sports I have a mild interest in watching, I have little to no emotional investment in.

    My brother however is so emotionally invested in football that he yells, and throws stuff when watching it. After his college team lost a championship last year he needed a week to “emotionally recover.”

    It has never made any sense to me until reading your comment. I have never seen him cry over football. But he sure lets out a lot of emotions when watching it.

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