Submitted 6 days ago by cm0002@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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If you’re at that point at 25, you should probably reassess your dating choices over the past decade.
Honestly, people’s relationship troubles almost always have more to do with their issues with their relationships with themselves than they have to do with their relationships with their partners. The two are intertwined, yes, but fixing the former will almost always fix the latter, while fixing the latter will almost always not fix the former.
Get some good therapy. It’s worth every penny.
Or you’re an introverted realist and can’t really be “fixed” at all
Do you use the term “realist” to mean “someone who focuses on arbitrary negative events to excuse their self-harming behavior of actively avoiding personal growth and progress”?
What if you’re 25 and want to start dating?
My tactic was to be upfront and sincere, to own my bullshit when I did it, and if they get wittingly manipulative, don’t tolerate it.
The keepers will strive to do better. The others will reveal themselves.
Of course, my advantage was decades in the recovery sector and the BDSM community (which plays with fire, sometimes literal, sometimes psychological) so I had a leg up re: self awareness.
Dating with more experience is so much better. I know what I want and don’t take the bullshit any more. I never want to go back!
Try Jesus, not me. youtu.be/zFU0PTsykeU
kibiz0r@midwest.social 6 days ago
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