Will closeted queer folk regret coming out of the closet? Only if bigots keep on bigoting…
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Submitted 8 months ago by aolko@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 months ago
aolko@lemmy.world 8 months ago
Well, backdoor for that exists, resulting in more scars, be it physical or emotional
ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 months ago
More people regret cancer surgery than regret transition, but I’m going to take a stab in the dark that you’re not out there questioning whether we should be concerned about people accessing cancer care…
Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 months ago
The more LGBT people are accepted in society the more likely it is for people to come out of the closet. Simple as that.
Most likely there were always as many LGBT people as there are now you just see them more now because we feel more comfortable coming out.
Deestan@lemmy.world 8 months ago
All of these have been pretty open about “what’s up”. If you know about them, you already have the answer.
This is JAQ propaganda. Not a genuine question.
Essence_of_Meh@lemmy.world 8 months ago
I see people are quick to lash out for a place called “No Stupid Questions”… I don’t know if OP is trolling or not but I can kind of understand where they’re coming from (or at least I think I do).
I grew up at a place and time where any info about LGBT+ was nonexistent, let alone having a chance of interacting with someone open about being part of that community. If your environment/life consist of a homogenized culture and view of the world, seeing tons of people “suddenly becoming trans” can be quite a shock. People don’t deal well with shock.
Hell, it has been years since I got out of my bubble and become aware of LGBT+ and I still had a bit of a shock (not a bad one, just in “surprise!” kind of way) when a content creator I’ve watched from time to time came out as trans.
I don’t necessarily think this question was asked in a bad faith but rather from position of ignorance - ignorance that could and should be dealt with in a productive manner. Throwing around accusations won’t help anyone and if OP is really trying to understand the situation, blowing up on them can lead to a negative outcome instead. Come on people, let’s do better.
As for the question: @Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com is right - it’s not “people turning trans”, it’s “people not hiding anymore”. World isn’t the same as it was a decade ago and as society becomes more accepting, people are less likely to hide their sexuality, identity etc.
Regret is always a possibility, whatever the choice. Is it likely? Statistically speaking, I don’t think so (though I can’t find the research I’ve seen about this topic at the moment). You have to keep in mind that transition is not a simple or fast process and people don’t do it on a whim.
On the other hand, this might lead to serious improvements in both mental health and general qualityof life as people don’t have to deal with a body and “self” they don’t feel comfortable with.
I’m no expert on this topic but I hope this helps at least a little bit.
aolko@lemmy.world 8 months ago
To address some negative feedback
People, you have to chill. No ill intent here, just morbid curiosity. Please don’t lash out on strangers.
FMT99@lemmy.world 8 months ago
The real question is how is it our business? If it makes them happy, great. And even if they did end up regretting it later, it’s not our place to judge, especially as strangers.
aolko@lemmy.world 8 months ago
at least it’s weird, if you track the people behind the media they produce, at most it’s “wtf, where did this guy that made this good content go?”
Deestan@lemmy.world 8 months ago
You have answers here.
Engaging with them instead of balking at pushback and repeating your question is a good way to convince people you are not concern trolling, jaq-ing or sealioning.
BlueEther@no.lastname.nz 8 months ago
Good on them for having/gaining the strength to come out and go through a process that must be very difficult. Shame on people that call it out as a posable bad thing and attempting to shame them