Comment on Anon trying understanding women

• curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  Or, like so many, he’s interpreting it as teasing when its not.

  My wife still browses reddit. A recent BORU was a young guy who was convinced his brother’s gf wanted to bang him. Everyone told him it was in his head, he went for it anyway…

  Now his brother and gf left the family home to get a hotel, and this dumb ass - who only now saw how wrong he was - is left explaining why to the family.

  Could be made up, of course. But its incredibly plausible. Lots of guys are dumb AF and either can’t pick up on any signals, or interpret everything as a signal.

  So I’d personally lean towards the incredibly more likely scenario of her being friendly, and him misinterpreting it.

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  • mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Lots of guys are dumb AF and either can’t pick up on any signals, or interpret everything as a signal.

    Don’t forget that not every woman is the same. Actions that are signals for one woman aren’t signals for another

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    • curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Also true.

      Either way its safe to assume not interested then, not interested now.

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      • GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

        Here’s a handy guide to tell, is she into you.

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    • Default_Defect@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Exactly this, my former roommate used to flirt with me all of the time, but I knew she wasn’t actually into me. It’s just how she acts with her friends.

      Meanwhile, a coworker that apparently was into me never acted as if she liked me as more than friends, so I treated her as a friend. I had to find out much later from a mutual friend after she assumed I must not have been interested.

      For some people, the “obvious signs” aren’t signs at all. Other people think they’re telegraphing strongly enough to be seen, but aren’t.

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