Comment on Switching teams in middle of a match!?

• Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  You didn’t tell your assaulter you are trans while he was assaulting you! You’re the real villain here!

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  • psud@aussie.zone ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    They don’t imply there was assault. They call the hookup ‘casual’ with poor consent that’s common enough, too many men expect to be able to do as they please

    Obviously they were upset enough by it to gain psychic revenge by not telling them they don’t identify as a girl, but they don’t suggest they weren’t up for it

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    • Droggelbecher@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      CW assault

      Tbh I didn’t even think to pause everything to sit him down and explain what it means to be non binary. It became kinda clear from talking that he thought gender=genitals and at that point I kinda wanted out, but he was pushy and persistent and I felt unsafe to tell him about either my gender or wanting to leave. Kinda just froze, idk how else to explain it. And he intentionally stealthed me, too.

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      • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        I am so sorry that happened to you. You remember the term “fight or flight” response? They have added “freeze” to the mix.

        I don’t know if you need to hear this, but your reaction was normal and it doesn’t mean you deserved it. It sounds like you’re trying to reclaim your autonomy in response to something traumatic, and that’s ok. Sorry someone tried to make you feel shitty for it.

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      • psud@aussie.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        That sucks. I’m sorry for you. I’m also sorry I prompted you to recall it in more detail

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      • Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        It’s a damn shame you have to recount this to a stranger on the Internet who’s being a creepy asshole

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    • Strawberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      rapey comment bro

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