Comment on Anon has marital problems

• vonbaronhans@midwest.social ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Do you think that’s what’s happening (both in my example but also the OP greentext)? That they’re admitting they have trouble communicating?

  I could see a literal interpretation of “I don’t understand women” as a standalone sentence being reasonably interpreted that way, sure. But given the context, I think that’s really unlikely.

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  • Ajen@sh.itjust.works ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I think they’re expressing frustration about not being able to communicate with women, and I think it’s easy to misinterpret that frustration as aggression or misogyny.

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    • vonbaronhans@midwest.social ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      To be fair, I don’t mean like, raging, beating your wife misogyny. Just the standard kind that results in overgeneralizing and venting in this particular way.

      The behavior described seems like either (1) the wife has big attachment and insecurity issues (maybe a personality or mood disorder) or (2) the anon has major, major communication issues (essentially driving the wife to desperate measures she might not have gone to otherwise). In either case, these are extremes. And extremes really shouldn’t be generalized to the whole gender population, y’know? I can’t think of anything BUT some amount of misogyny that would lead to that type of generalization.

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      • Ajen@sh.itjust.works ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        A lot of men genuinely have trouble communicating with all women (beyond superficial day-to-day interactions). I don’t think that’s misogynistic, I think it’s a symptom of a bigger problem in society. Boys aren’t taught how to interact with women, and when they fall back to what they were taught about interacting with other men they quickly get themselves in trouble.

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