Comment on how do I become the dullest, most boring coworker so this needy man leaves me alone?
NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world 3 days ago
It’s the simple things in life… always the simple things. Have you ever said the simple things to him?
“Be quiet now.”
“Leave me alone.”
(and after his response, whatever it is, you be quiet yourself)
Shampiss@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
What?? Imagine telling anyone to “be quiet now”. That’s plainly rude and won’t help
It’s important to be honest and polite. “I really need to focus on my work and be silent for a few hours a day. I’d be happy to chat on a coffee break, but I need to have some quiet time please”
DrDystopia@lemy.lol 2 days ago
But what if they aren’t happy to chat on their coffee breaks either?
What you’re suggesting is basically just hitting the snooze button. “I’m sorry but I’m just the type of person who don’t do small talk.” in a polite but firm manner have worked wonders for me before.
Shampiss@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Sure, why not. If OP really doesn’t want to small talk they can say that.
OP doesn’t mention they hate smalltalk. I just gave a suggestion of words that I thought would fit, but I also don’t know OP
NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world 2 days ago
If it is rude in your culture, you should find the appropriate way of expression
But that won’t help either, because it makes too many words. By far.
It is essential to stay absolutely focused in such cases. You want something, so you say what you want, and nothing else. And then silence.
Silence is your goal.
Nothing about what you yourself are doing, only what you want the other one to do. Nothing about coffee and nothing about last year’s vacation on that beautiful island in the sun with the bowling club and how drunk they all were… The barest minimum is the right amount of politeness.
Shampiss@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Ok, now be quiet please.
Shardikprime@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I keked