depending on your spoons, if youâre a big enough pain in their arse and keep pestering them about it, they can and fucking will make exceptions.
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Baku@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
I wanted to set up a mail redirection in case I forget to change my address for anything over, but wouldnât you know it - not allowed to do that while youâre under. For âlegal reasonsâ, they say
I'm really frustrated and disillusioned at the moment, and needed a rant. Open at your eyeballs' own risk
That actually made me really upset when I found out. Partially because by the time they bothered to tell me, I was already 3 quarters through the application and already sent in my ID, but also because itâs just such a stupid thing to age-gate, and seems like it was thought up by the mind of somebody whoâs always lived a stereotypical upper class lifestyle I know itâs inconsequential, but it really reeks of the sort of restriction some rich private schooled arsehole would impose. The sort that grew up in a stock standard, white picket fence, 2 parent households - whoâs only struggles as a child were figuring out which one of their thousand dollar outfits to wear to their 80k a year private school, and one who never had to move around At a surface glance, sure it seems logical to assume that every child will always move in sync with at least 1 of their parents, and can just be listed as a dependent on their parents redirection application. But in my situation, that just canât happen. And it really isnât just my situation that would necessitate redirecting your mail as a minor. Although less common than previous decades, some people do still get a job at 15/16 then move out. Some people move away for school or employment prospects. Some to escape violent home situations. Not everybody who moves out as a minor necessarily ends up in the child protection system But the 1% tasked with running these shit shows donât think of that. They just assume that the luxuries they got to grow up with and took for granted are universal. They are very much not. Iâm sure somebody will point out that parents want to know what mail and parcels their kids receive, and thatâs fine, Iâm not saying every minor should automatically have a right to redirect or hold their mail. But there are so many supporting documents I could provide them - I have court orders, tenancy agreements, a lease, rent trails, I could even have the person acting on behalf of my guardian (in this case, my case manager) go in with me and backup what Iâm saying. We could even go get a stat Dec written up But even that isnât an option. Thereâs no exemptions. No negotiations. Itâs go be listed on a parents application, or go fuck yourself. Personal circumstances are irrelevant, and so is supporting evidence. I know I live in an edge case - every fucking company and governmental agency wants to make damn sure I know that. But it gets exhausting having to deal with this BS day in and day out. Actually, one of my earliest memories of dealing with the bureaucratic nightmare that has been my life was not long after I entered care, I dared to want a library card. They refused my application because I was a minor and couldnât get a signatory at the time. Another one of my earliest memories is when I had knee troubles from an incident that occurred many years ago and went to a physio. 9 month waitlist. Finally get in. She needs a piece of paper signed giving her consent to provide medical care, or whatever the piece of paper wouldâve said. The worker wouldnât/couldnât do it. I just had to go home. Then COVID hit, and after another 9 month waitlist, the physio was just telling me what to do over the phone Iâm actually going to make a complaint about this to auspost, and when they inevitably come back in 2 business months to inform me theyâve investigated themselves and found their policies to be justified, Iâm going to go to the postal industry ombudsman. And then Iâm going to write angry letters to the ministers responsible for AP, and might even write another one to my federal MP. It has genuinely gotten me that riled up Again, I know itâs first world problems, and at that, probably the most minor problem in DT history. But it is making me really irrationally angry and I want to do something about it
Sorry for the rant, if anybody read it. With all the talk about these social media bans, on top of the issues with buying knives, and now trying to get a fricking mail redirection Iâm really feeling like I keep slipping through the gaps and am getting left behind by half brained ideas thought up by privileged people
Taleya@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
Baku@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
Iâm sure gonna give it a try
Taleya@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
did a bit of digging and they absolutely have special dispensation for DV, deceased estates and victims of natural disaster, but it must be a âspecial requestâ
might have to actually call them, or go to the GPO - lpo are franchisees, I donât see them having the authority to kick it up.
Catfish@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
I somewhat get it. I moved out as a minor and had some of this nonsense. Difference was I had a lawyer for a father who could hand over a business card and mostly make the shit go away. Sorry.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
so many hugs
Baku@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
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wscholermann@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
As a child that had met not quite all but most ACE criteria, I understand perfectly well your point of view. While the issue at hand seems small, all the problems that lead to this are not.
Unfortunately the government reluctantly and sparingly offers social assistance mainly to stop a riots in the street from the disaffected, but mostly donât GAF.
The only hope I can give you is that you are still young and youâve got time to turn things around.
princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
âŚyouâve got time to turn things around.
This feels uncomfortably close to a âpull yourself up by your bootstrapsâ mentality⌠đ
wscholermann@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
Certainly wasnât intended as such. You usually need help to turn things around and even more help is definitely needed if you arenât at a great starting point.
princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
Itâs just that you keep putting it on them, as if they need to be the one to âturn things aroundâ when their rant was specifically about external systems prejudicing them. They canât âturn aroundâ AusPostâs decision to deny them the ability to redirect their mail?
Basically, they are trying to ask these systems for help, and are being denied. So why put it on their shoulders? Why not be outraged that someone is falling through the gaps, through no fault of their own?
I get that you have good intentions here, but I feel like youâre kind of missing the point in a big wayâŚ
melbaboutown@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
Itâs not a small issue, youâve been cheated of both the supports you should have had but also of the right to do necessary things for yourself.
Baku@aussie.zone â¨1⊠â¨month⊠ago
I guess. It just feels weird and kinda self absorbed that Iâm so angry about not being able to redirect my mail, while half the DT is just struggling to get by