As someone who does hit the gym, in my experience the majority of people you’re impressing with your physique are men. Sure I’d say most women like it if you have it (assuming you aren’t too big), but generalising that it’s the main attraction would be a mistake.
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OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 4 weeks agoIt’s a bit of both. I can see these hobbies leading to a healthy relationship, but anyone who thinks the answer isn’t “hit the gym” is coping.
(Btw I’m no gym rat, but this is a fact)
punkfungus@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
lseif@sopuli.xyz 4 weeks ago
good thing thats my goal too :-)
lorty@lemmy.ml 4 weeks ago
Anyone who has been around actual gym rats knows that it’s never the opposite sex they are chatting, comparing and posing with.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
anyone who thinks the answer isn’t “hit the gym” is coping.
I’d put “hit the dermatologist” above it. Plenty of girls go for the skinny or husky builds. But blemishes are a universal turn off
GiveMemes@jlai.lu 4 weeks ago
The benefits of hitting the gym are much more than just getting swole. It increases self-confidence, helps to improve self-image, etc, which are all way more important to getting laid than any hobby you could have.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
It increases self-confidence, helps to improve self-image, etc
I could say exactly the same of the dermatologist.
GiveMemes@jlai.lu 4 weeks ago
Not at a biochemical/hormonal level, which you definitely can for at least physical activity.
Prandom_returns@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
Too much generalisation for my taste.
uis@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
Shapillon@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Hitting the gym can’t hurt but it’s very low on my list of priorities.
Being chill, open with one’s emotions, able to communicate reasonably, willing to help around etc are way higher.
Usually being a woman helps too but life’s life.
ripripripriprip@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Those aren’t really hobbies, though.
Vilian@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
Isn’t drag queen literally being woman as a hobbie?
bishbosh@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
damn…
GiveMemes@jlai.lu 4 weeks ago
The issue us that the hobbies you have have little correlation with whether or not women like you. I do many things on the list of hobbies that women find unattractive, but I don’t have trouble pulling because very little of attracting a sexual partner actually has to do with having a lot in common with them. It’s more of vibey thing like that guy was saying.
At the same time, the gym is gonna help self image and self confidence which will help you be fun chill and easygoing which will help you get laid.
Shapillon@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Exactly!
As long as they’re not punt kicking kitten or dropkicking old folks, hobbies are pretty much irrelevant imho.