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qyron@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks agoPick whatever synonym you prefer and read it in place of.
I personally dislike “fuck”; sounds purely physical and unemotional, aggressive, quasi mechanical, like scratching an itch.
While “porking” sounds silly, goofy, almost nonsensical. Something two people attracted and trusting of each other would blurt out as teasing.
The first carries the same weight you vocalized on your reply for me, only that I don’t apply that disgust solely towards men. I can tolerate a “fuck” as an expletive towards anything in a figurative way (fuck the traffic, the car, the coffee being too hot, the iced tea too sweet, the dog peeing on the sofa, the cat throwing up on a shoe) but I sincerely dislike saying or hearing said “fuck” in the literal sense. It’s crude, rude, disrespectful towards the other.
Aksamit@slrpnk.net 5 weeks ago
Do women who you ‘pork’ like you refering to fucking thrm with that term?
qyron@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
I only use euphemistics if there is an established relation and consent to it.
At some point in my life I was with someone that had a kink for being called by terms I consider demeaning towards any human being, so I openly refused to do so and explained why I did it. The relationship ended shortly after.
Because I see sex in a couple dynamic as a corner stone for a healthy relationship, I always strived to be open about talking regarding limits, dos and donts. I like enjoying myself before, while and after being with my partner and making sure my partner does as well and laughing and goofing around is an integral part of it.
So, if there is mutual trust to throw around some silly dirty talk, yes, to answer your question, I would.
Shortstack@reddthat.com 5 weeks ago
I just want you to know that your comment wasn’t blatantly disrespected at least by this internet stranger.
It’s a thoughtful reply to some asshat that was asking you questions in bad faith, he was not open to a different point of view from the outset.
And also that’s pretty awesome stance to take. I wish more folks were this mature about their relationships
qyron@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
If somehow letting out all of that vitriole helped that person in feeling relieved and with their views asserted, good for them.
I sleep at ease with my conscience, as I didn’t insulted them, regardless of what they felt or thought.
Thank you for your kind words.
Aksamit@slrpnk.net 5 weeks ago
How is ‘pork’ an acceptable term for sex though? The euphemism you are implying with it is literally to ‘fuck a piece of meat’. And pig meat at that.
This is not a cute or light hearted thing to imply when talking about sex. ‘Fuck’ is far less offensive a term for sex than ‘pork’.
But sure, whatever, if the women you fuck do want sex with them to be spoken about like you’re sticking your dick in pieces of pig meat, then by all means.
Just understand that it is disgusting and degrading to speak about sex this way publicly and you should really be more called out on it.
detectivesniffles@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 weeks ago
this is such a grossly uncharitable interpretation you can not be serious right now
qyron@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
After that outing, that I sincerely hope has made your peace, I consider myself as such.
FarmTaco@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
“This is how I see how. so it is how it is for everyone.
So it is written, so shall it be”
Ramses, or Aksamit?