Comment on Anon shares his dating preferences
calcopiritus@lemmy.world 2 months agoThe tinder one is though. Someone being on tinder doesn’t tell you anything about that person. Only that they’re looking for either a partner or casual sex.
This is fake but that said…
Meh, Tinder isn’t a dating app. It’s a hook up app. There are dating apps which are fine, but tinder is a hookup bar, you know the one, where the bar is empty by 12:30 am because everyone has found a friend for the night. Can you find a long term mate? Sure but odds are against you.
What are the dating apps?
Things like eHarmony, Match, etc. they generally have a lot more information about potential matches and there’s usually a back and forth over a period of time.
I know several people that met spouses on them.I used them with some success.
The friends that used Tinder the choice to swipe is 99% based on looks alone. And things usually move very fast.
Not saying you can’t meet long term interest on Tinder or can’t have a hook up on others. But they have pretty defined goal differences and the people that use them also.
Disclaimer: I’m a strong proponent of people being happy and doing right for them. I make no judgements.
Well actually…
Or the latter leading to the former
Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
You literally just said it tells you nothing and then listed something it tells you.
0ops@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Being on tinder doesn’t tell anything new given the context of the conversation. Any single girls that anon’s friend’s gf would consider referring to our apparently-single anon would be interested in one or both of those things whether they were on tinder or not, or they hopefully wouldn’t agree to a date.
Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Well it sort of depends. Using dating apps for hookups is fine, but its awful for building relationships. The ghosting alone is pretty traumatic.
I would hope a potential dating partner would also be aware of this and have a similar view. They could just say they use it for hook ups exclusively though and it wouldnt bother me.
calcopiritus@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Presumably, if you’re looking for a partner, if the potential partner is looking for a partner it’s better.
Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
I would agree but tinder and most dating apps are not for relationships they are for sex.