Can’t tell if under 20 or just socially inept.
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Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
The third one is pretty weird, it’s just the default way to meet people now.
The other two are pretty straightforward.
Skates@feddit.nl 2 weeks ago
Olhonestjim@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
My profiles had fun and active pics, jokes, preferences, favorites, dealbreakers, and honesty. But I found the apps so damn boring and disconnecting that I’d forget when I’d occasionally have a conversation. I couldn’t get excited at all. It only made me depressed. While I know part of that is on me, it ain’t all me. I decided one dystopian corpo shouldn’t have a monopoly on romance and deleted my accounts.
Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 2 weeks ago
I think Hinge is the only one not owned by one of the online dating conglomerates.
I agree it kinda sucks, but I just don’t meet many women in my day to day life, so it’s the best option for me.
accideath@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Tinder is the worst possible way to get to meet people, unless you’re at least a 9/10 guy or a woman who just wants to hook up, nothing more. At least that’s been my experience, both using the app and talking to friends who have. Meaningful connections are rare.
python@programming.dev 2 weeks ago
It might be a regional thing? I live in a Town known for its Technical University, so most of the people on Tinder are socially awkward and tech literate 18-25 y/os who either don’t like going to noisy places like bars, clubs etc. or just prefer texting first before committing time to a date (free time is kind of hard to make as a student here).
My own reason was more on the autistic side, as I do NOT recognize flirting unless it is specifically stated. So having an app where both parties can state “hey, we’re talking with romantic intentions here!!” was the best solution ever haha (I met my husband within 30mins of installing the app 🤷)
accideath@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Hm, maybe. Where I lived, your chances were low if you’re a nerd and/or looking for something serious. Like, most people on tinder were the exact same crowd you‘d also meet in clubs. But it also wasn’t a particularly big town and most people on tinder in my age range were university students from the less nerdy faculties…
Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Well what should non-autistic people do then?
python@programming.dev 2 weeks ago
On an individual level? No idea, I have no experience with that lol
On a systemic level? The problem seems to be that people assume dating apps are only for hookups, so people who are looking for something serious avoid them. So the idea becomes true through self-validation. Breaking that cycle somehow would make everyone involved happier I think?
Crashumbc@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
For you yes, that’s not the norm. In average cities/towns, it’s used for hook ups (shallow ones) and cheating. Can you meet a person there? Sure but odds are very much against it.
Note, I’m talking about Tinder specifically, dating apps are fine.