Comment on Why do social workers get upset when you don't want their help?

lvxferre@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

It’s clear by your post and comments that you’re living in a SUV due to your lifestyle, not due to deprivation.

So let’s get practical:

  1. Don’t mention to doctors that you live in a SUV; if possible/reasonable to do so, lie.
  2. If you must mention it, let clear that you live in it out of a conscious choice, it’s your lifestyle, and you don’t want social workers bugging you.
  3. If a social worker pops up, highlight the fact that you’re being buggered over and over by social workers, and that you do not want to change your lifestyle.

Beyond that, it is not your problem any more. And that includes their emotional state.


Now, on why they do it. Frankly, I don’t know, but if I had to guess:

A lot of people who desire to help others don’t really do so because they want a better world; they do it for the sake of their own fee fees, because they want to feel like a good person who helps others out. As such, they’re willing to violate the others’ agency and consent and force their “help” down your throat, even if they aren’t actually helping jack shit but being just a burden; and they get really pissy when you correctly highlight that they are not helping and impose some boundaries. (inb4 “but I have good intentions” - go pave Hell with them dammit.)

That is not just social workers, mind you. You see people like this in all professions and environments. However, I believe that there’s a disproportionate large amount of those among social workers due to the nature of their job, simply because social work is all about helping others out.

Couple that with bureaucracy. There’s a high chance that your info is in some database as “refused help”. Guess how someone who, unlike you, needs and wants help but declines it due to pride would get into that database? “Refused help”. So the next social worker checking your entry will see it as someone who potentially might want and need help.

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