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Sharkwellington@lemmy.one ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

This is my exact same experience. I ask for someone to elaborate on their stance, get told (not accused, told) I’m trolling. Ask for explanation/definition of a concept, get called an idiot shitlib and told to read some theory. Ask for civility, get told I deserve abuse for “endorsing genocide”. (By the way, I absolutely oppose the genocide in Gaza. But I’m a genocide supporter I guess because I won’t flush my vote third party this November.)

Hexbear is a community that expects you to conform. Every time there is a post like this, someone comes out of the woodwork and says “They’re nice people if you talk like them and agree with them on everything.” It’s cool that you’re not getting abused, but abuse is coming from that space, whether or not it is happening to you.

It’s a shame because I would like to hear the nuances of their viewpoints, but I can never get them to tell me what they are. Always complaining that nobody tries to understand, but dogpiling on anyone that asks questions. Then they pull up your report history and tell you “It’s just a little dunking bro, stop being a snowflake” for not putting up with it.

Users of Hexbear, if you’re reading these words, do better. Nobody is going to sympathize with your cause if you antagonize outsiders that want to learn more.

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OpenStars@discuss.online ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
VERY well-stated, imho. I nominated your comment to !BestOfLemmy@lemmy.world.

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EABOD25@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
Well put. To be fair, there’s people that disagree with them that would ridicule them too. Everyone just expects people to be shitty. My opinion is we need to change the atmosphere altogether, but I can only control my own actions.

With that being said, I am guilty of a “gotcha” move to test the waters. I didn’t necessarily see it as disrespectful in the moment because the whole post was “Libs bad! Get the torches”.

I want to keep saying though that OP of the post was absolutely respectful, but our discussion just degraded because he kept refusing the sources I presented and it just went to shit after that. I even explained my comment to OP and apologized to them if I offended them with my comment.

But everyone else just proved that they’re garbage people that just want to treat everyone like shit and not try to educate or learn.

And now I guess people who often posts like that on HB are losing their mind because I’m criticizing them in a way lesser way they were criticizing me. I don’t get it lol

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TheOubliette@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
Voting for the people doing genocide does make you complicit. Feeling that the genocide is bad is limited to your mind, it is of no use to the dead and dying children. You do actually have to do something about it if you think genocide is something to be opposed.

If this is your idea of hexbears being crazy or wrong, you picked possibly the worst example you could. Though I am sure it resonates with many others who want to feel good about their complicity.

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- Sharkwellington@lemmy.one ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  Ok.
  
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emeralddawn45@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
This is such a bad faith comment. Im not a hexbear user but my instance is federated with them and ive interacted with lots of their posts. Go into any post on hexbear and youll see tons of examples of them disagreeing WITH EACHOTHER. they commonly have huge arguments in the comments and as long as everyone is civil and not arguing in bad faith noone gets banned and noone gets urt feelings. Stop lying and using hexbear as the lemmy boogeyman because its a bad look.

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- Sharkwellington@lemmy.one ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  “People I don’t agree with are lying in bad faith.”
  
  I have no interest in talking to you.
  
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TraitorToAmerica@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
I’m a grad user not a hexbear user but views are pretty much the same, I’ll say here: it matters a ton in the thread and way in which you tried to do this. if you give the slightest hint that you’re asking questions in bad faith, they’re going to pounce on you, because communists online constantly have to deal with bad faith trolls. There are an extremely small number of communists in the west, we are outnumbered basically everywhere online and in real life, so we are naturally protective of the very few places where we hold the majority opinion.

I’m not gonna go looking for your interactions with hexbear to actually see but I’ll answer any questions you have right now. also, you haven’t been banned or had any action taken against you by hexbear mods at all. you could always pose respectful questions in one of their general mega threads, or in ask chapo

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- Sharkwellington@lemmy.one ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  I’ll read through those threads sometime. I don’t think I’ll be commenting in that instance though. Maybe I’ll look around for a community that clicks better to interact with. I don’t really have questions off the top of my head, sorry. I don’t know what I don’t know.
  
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  - TraitorToAmerica@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
    nah sorry the general megathreads are mostly just people randomly commenting about their day and what not, I just meant you can just go in there and ask for someone willing to talk about some topic. Like, just say “I am a visiting liberal and would like to discuss XYZ that I don’t understand” and if someone responds you can go into detail about what you want to discuss. lemmygrad has a communism 101 comm that has heightened civility rules but your instance is defederated from grad.
    
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