Start by learning, “retail employees have to act friendly and be nice to you. It has nothing to do with their actual feelings.”
It’s good practice for “women often have to act nice to men they don’t like, because they’re afraid of being harmed by them before they can get to safety.”
Honestly her liking him or just pretending is irrelevant. Start by learning “offering to rub someone’s feet (or any other somewhat intimate touching) is NOT a good way to flirt, even if they do like you!”
Still, if instead of talking to her multiple timers during her shift and creeping her out with the footrub offe, he could have just asked her for a coffee after work, which she could politely decline. After that, he could leave her alone, and still occasionally shop at the same Walmart.
retail employees have to act friendly and be nice to you
As an European, if a retail employee ever acts friendly or even smiles at me I’m not setting foot in that retail chain ever again.
I don’t want creepy freaks bothering me while I’m trying to shop, I just want to shop and be left alone unless I ask for something (which would also be a red flag, the products should be sufficiently well organised and labelled that asking will never be necessary).
In Europe not hitting customers with the wet fish is considered the height of customer service. Anything in excess of that is considered highly intimate.
Seriously though, the American style glad-handing salesman attitude does not go over well anywhere other than the United States.
Haha, I worked in a high-end gift shop and spent my day reading labels for ladies too vain to wear reading glasses.
I’d help them pick out the gift they needed, often for their mother in law which I think is unfair, it’s HIS mom. Then while we wrapped the gift, they’d get several other items for their own home.
We weren’t on commission so it was never a “hard sell,” and I was always sensitive to people who prefer to shop alone because I do too. But some customers want attention or at least human interaction.
And sometimes I would take a mom’s little kids around the store, showing them the things it was okay to touch and steering them away from the fragile porcelain, so their mom could relax enough to think about what she needed to get. Fortunately we had a section of “grandma gifts for children” so I could always take them there if she was comfortable having them out of her sight.
And then a few times a year we’d get a man, who was shopping for his wife or his own mother! We’d always help them out because they’d be lost, and often it was less about finding the things, and more about asking about her, so we could help them figure out what she might enjoy and appreciate.
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Start by learning, “retail employees have to act friendly and be nice to you. It has nothing to do with their actual feelings.”
It’s good practice for “women often have to act nice to men they don’t like, because they’re afraid of being harmed by them before they can get to safety.”
Kacarott@aussie.zone 2 months ago
Honestly her liking him or just pretending is irrelevant. Start by learning “offering to rub someone’s feet (or any other somewhat intimate touching) is NOT a good way to flirt, even if they do like you!”
Soulg@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Well he learned that this time lol
Though I gotta say banning him from the store seems excessive
Rampsquatch@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
We only have one side of this story, and the source is an anonymous 4chan user, you wanna bet there are some details missing?
echodot@feddit.uk 2 months ago
It’s 4chan, so, no he didn’t
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Yes, that too!
slaacaa@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Still, if instead of talking to her multiple timers during her shift and creeping her out with the footrub offe, he could have just asked her for a coffee after work, which she could politely decline. After that, he could leave her alone, and still occasionally shop at the same Walmart.
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Yes, seeing if she’s okay with meeting outside the retail context is the test. If not, go no further.
leftzero@lemmynsfw.com 2 months ago
As an European, if a retail employee ever acts friendly or even smiles at me I’m not setting foot in that retail chain ever again.
I don’t want creepy freaks bothering me while I’m trying to shop, I just want to shop and be left alone unless I ask for something (which would also be a red flag, the products should be sufficiently well organised and labelled that asking will never be necessary).
Soulg@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
I understand not wanting them to bother you, but even if they smile?
echodot@feddit.uk 2 months ago
In Europe not hitting customers with the wet fish is considered the height of customer service. Anything in excess of that is considered highly intimate.
Seriously though, the American style glad-handing salesman attitude does not go over well anywhere other than the United States.
leftzero@lemmynsfw.com 2 months ago
If I wanted to be creeped out I’d go to a haunted house or something like that, not to a store.
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Haha, I worked in a high-end gift shop and spent my day reading labels for ladies too vain to wear reading glasses.
I’d help them pick out the gift they needed, often for their mother in law which I think is unfair, it’s HIS mom. Then while we wrapped the gift, they’d get several other items for their own home.
We weren’t on commission so it was never a “hard sell,” and I was always sensitive to people who prefer to shop alone because I do too. But some customers want attention or at least human interaction.
And sometimes I would take a mom’s little kids around the store, showing them the things it was okay to touch and steering them away from the fragile porcelain, so their mom could relax enough to think about what she needed to get. Fortunately we had a section of “grandma gifts for children” so I could always take them there if she was comfortable having them out of her sight.
And then a few times a year we’d get a man, who was shopping for his wife or his own mother! We’d always help them out because they’d be lost, and often it was less about finding the things, and more about asking about her, so we could help them figure out what she might enjoy and appreciate.
lowered_lifted@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
are you scandinavian because I feel like that’s what one side of my family is like, the swedish/dutch side
JoShmoe@ani.social 2 months ago
As stated, you gotta start somewhere. Nobody is born knowing what to do or how to keep mouse from pissing themselves.