IMO, an agreement to get married should be a mutual discussion, not a surprise. My wife and I also decided to get married by having a discussion and then went ring shopping together. We went with a blue topaz. Super pretty and didn’t break the bank.
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DichotoDeezNutz@lemmy.world 5 months agoThis, it ruins the surprise a bit but also ensures you’ll hear a “yes”
doctordevice@lemmy.ca 5 months ago
eronth@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Yeah, but a lot of people come to the agreement that they’ll get married without an official proposal date getting set.
Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 5 months ago
True, but you can meet in the middle re: this kind of thing with the ring. Having established that it’s going to happen at some point, take a trip to a jewelers ‘for fun’. Pay attention to what she goes ‘oooh’ over - style, stone, cut, etc. Write this information down to search separately.
It’s a bit of a stereotype I suppose, but trust that your future wife knows what she’s doing on that visit (particularly if y’all don’t browse jewelry frequently - it’s kind of an anvil of a hint). This way there’s still an element of surprise, but you’re not just picking something random in hopes it pleases.
Pronell@lemmy.world 5 months ago
You can always also get a cheaper sentimental ring and go out ring shopping together for the official one.
That way you keep the surprise and she gets the ring she wants, plus another ring and a nice memory.