Comment on How do I get rid of my dead name in iPadOS settings?
SplashJackson@lemmy.ca 4 months ago
What’s a dead name? Is that like a zombie name?
Comment on How do I get rid of my dead name in iPadOS settings?
SplashJackson@lemmy.ca 4 months ago
What’s a dead name? Is that like a zombie name?
noughtnaut@lemmy.world 4 months ago
I’m glad you ask about things you don’t know. You’re a smart person.
A dead name is a person’s given name, in the context of a person having transitioned to a different gender and also changing their name to match the gender they identify as. It is bad form to then continue to call them by their birth name.
azulavoir@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
It could also be, perhaps, someone’s given name before adoption gave them a new one. Or perhaps a meddling relative suggested a “better” name, and then the person went back to the one they were born with, leaving the relative’s name idea dead.
It’s not trans-exclusive (I fall into the latter category I mentioned) but it’s definitely a mostly trans concept
pewgar_seemsimandroid@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 months ago
is a marriage a option too? (gay marriage included)
cynar@lemmy.world 3 months ago
Not generally. It generally refers to first names more than surnames. It also strongly implies that you actively want to kill the name off, not just move to the new one. It’s changing names with prejudice against the old one.
Refering to someone by their maiden name is generally not considered insulting. Dead naming someone (after you’re aware) is extremely insulting.
Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 months ago
That was new to me. Thank you for sharing.
pyre@lemmy.world 4 months ago
that’s really interesting never heard of that scenario before
bitcrafter@programming.dev 4 months ago
So does that make the new name the undead name, and therefore like a zombie name?
Queen___Bee@lemmy.world 4 months ago
I know you’re joking, but for those who don’t understand sarcasm it’s more akin to a rebirth name when changing it after religious epiphanies or extreme cases of cuttingoff communication from one’s origin family/tribe.
SplashJackson@lemmy.ca 4 months ago
Oh, I’ve been calling it my slave name
magnetosphere@fedia.io 3 months ago
lol that works, too!