Queen___Bee

@Queen___Bee@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is kindness often viewed as a sign of naïveté?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  To add to what others have said, boundary-setting is a skill we develop over many social interactions. It may feel awkward or mean setting a boundary initially, but it’s essential to maintain one’s “social battery” and priorities/sanity.

  Speaking of priorities, those are a good indication as to when setting boundaries is helpful. For example, you have an important appointment to get to, but a family member/friend is asking your help with something at around the same time. Communicating you have a prior engagement at the time of your appointment while being willing to help out after, or giving them suggestion on how else they can get the help they need, is you setting a boundary of what you can do with your time.

  When we have concerns of feeling like an asshole, we want to consider from where that originates. Sometimes we’ve been raised around family members or “friends” who take advantage of another’s kindness and treat people maintaining boundaries as the villain (e.g. “Why are you leaving us hanging?/ Why couldn’t you help me/your Old Man out this one time?”). This is often a sign of emotional immaturity/ poor insight, empathy, and/or self-awareness. Healthy connections will respect your boundaries and maybe check in later if a raincheck is suggested. When interacting with people who don’t respect “no” as a full sentence and answer, sometimes reminding them of our limits and empathizing with the person’s situation can disarm them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, that took a turn. Sorry to hear that! I love how picking/making a new together is becoming slightly more common that in earlier decades.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Gen Z is actually taking sick days, unlike their older coworkers. It’s redefining the workplace⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I feel like religion/conservatism plays a role in this mindset. There’s a lot of pride in self-sacrifice and at least appearing “strong” in the face of adversity even if it’s regarding your health. Not that I agree with it at all. I’m all for unlimited such days and self-care.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Never believe the hype.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  To explain in case you are serious, IMO I think they’re meaning you can obviously articulate the point to which you came from where you originated class-wise, and explain in detail at that.

  But the “sucker” aspect is to point out how, even if we can find a way, the “game” itself seems to lead many to devolve into an existential thought-process of ‘what is the point,’ when it’s much harder now-a-days to get to ANY point of success like a couple of previous generations were able to (those in their 50s+). If a person still believes that “winning” at the game is still important, then they already lost. Or they’re just a bit bitter and using a mocking tone… hard to interpret tone in text.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I get rid of my dead name in iPadOS settings?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  I know you’re joking, but for those who don’t understand sarcasm it’s more akin to a rebirth name when changing it after religious epiphanies or extreme cases of cuttingoff communication from one’s origin family/tribe.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨is there a legal way to consume alcohol bought at a store, outside of a home, hotel room, etc.?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, outside of Las Vegas, NV I don’t know any place that allows it, but I could be wrong. I think it harkens back to the days of Prohibition with dry counties. Someone can correct me, as my history recollection isn’t great. I’m guessing it’s not much of a problem in the UK, or wherever you are located?