Comment on Anon can't find a good match

• Jerkface@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Mother had BPD, possibly ASPD, brother had NPD. I have a tendency to attract people who suffered intense childhood trauma.

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  • Rolder@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    I’m picturing you going on a first date and just casually asking something like “So, childhood abuse yes or no?”

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    • Disaster@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Often times, you don’t need to ask. You can just tell.

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    • Jerkface@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      Like another comment said, sometimes you can just sense it, but often enough they will just tell me. I have heard so many stories, frequently about sexual assault by a family member, from someone I had just met or barely knew.

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      • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        I have a similar thing. People just open up to me, but my parents aren’t abusive. The worst punishment they gave us was to write a research paper on why what we had done was wrong.

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  • A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Sameee. It sounds bad but honestly I think it’s done a lot in the way of building mental fortitude

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