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• Crashumbc@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Actual controversial opinion: I wish people would stop saying bullshit like this. And it is utter and complete bullshit.

  There are MANY ugly people and for them taking care of themselves helps of course but, ain’t going to change them facts. They’re ugly…

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  • qooqie@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    It’s not bullshit, average is average for a reason. Most people are average or slightly below average and if they just take care of themselves they will look a ton better. Attractiveness is on a bell curve not a straight line.

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    • mycodesucks@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Okay, maybe this is true.

      It’s also possible you’re talking to someone in the long tail of that bell curve who is already taking care of themselves. You are making a of assumptions and your attempt to push responsibility onto him when he may in fact be in the lowest percent of that bell curve, and if he is, your well-intentioned controversial opinion is like throwing salt in his wounds.

      People always just assume they can do this with this problem. If someone has mental health issues, they tell them to seek help. If someone has physical issues, they tell them to see a doctor. If they have relationship issues, “Oh, it’s all your fault, man. Work on yourself.” even in the absence of ANY evidence.

      I know it’s uncomfortable to think about the people in that bottom 1% of the bell curve who are completely helpless and overwhelmed, but victim blaming isn’t a good way to deal with it.

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      • deaf_fish@lemm.ee ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        I sympathize and also I disagree that there’s only one curve. Everyone is different about what they like. One person uggo will be someone else’s hotty.

        Now, if you’re not conventionally attractive that is definitely harder because everyone’s opinions are skewed.

        I also understand that you may feel like just giving up on finding a match. If that’s the case, that’s you’re right. When you really do give up, please stop posting about how it’s impossible to find someone. You’re being discouraging to others who are still trying. And the only other option is State mandated partners. Trust me no one wants that not even you.

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