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daggermoon@piefed.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

• Foofighter@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Imho, the bisexuality wouldn’t be the issue. The fact that one partner was not aware of the sexual orientation of the married, on paper lifelong partner, is. Bisexuality, in contrast to pansexuality, has a focus on the, well … sex of the partner. The bisexual duality can not be satisfied by the binarity of one partner, leaving a lot of space for unhappiness, uncertainty and confusion, in a state where certainly might have been exspected.

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  • dragonlover@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Lack of communication being a problem - sure. But you’re conflating a few things.

    1. In modern terms, bisexuality and pansexuality are interchangeable, the terms have evolved over the years and most of the community rejects the old distinction.
    2. “The bisexual duality cannot be satisfied by the binarity of one partner” is the stupidest thing ive ever heard. They are bi, meaning their attraction applies to both (or more) genders. They aren’t in heat with an unquenchable lust for sex with multiple genders. Someone can have a preference for brunettes and marry a redhead and not be “unsatisfied”. The problem with closeted gay people marrying into a straight relationship is that they are denying their own sexuality, and lying to themselves. Bisexual people are not lying to themselves. They are attracted to their spouse. There is no confusion.

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    • WoodScientist@lemmy.world ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Seriously. I’m bi. Like, objectively undeniably bi. I’ve had cis partners of both sexes. I’ve had long-term relationships with both. I’m not one of those people that’s bi on paper but has only ever dated one sex or gender.

      And yet, I’m happily married to my husband. We’re in a fully monogamous, exclusive, committed relationship. Been married for eight years. I said “til death do us part,” and I meant it! Still do.

      Being bi just means you’re attracted to more than one sex or gender. The idea that I would ever tell my partner something like, “well you see, there are just some physical needs that you as a man are incapable of meeting…” is just a porn fantasy. I don’t have some irresistible need to be with both men and women. I just find some people attractive regardless of gender.

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  • queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    The bisexual duality can not be satisfied by the binarity of one partner, leaving a lot of space for unhappiness, uncertainty and confusion, in a state where certainly might have been exspected.

    This is an extremely common and extremely silly take. Bi folk aren’t any more or less “satisfied” in a relationship than mono folk are. People (bi or otherwise) betray their partnership commitments all the time, but for whatever reason bisexuality seems to get conflated with infidelity / general profligacy. It’s an ugly and inaccurate stereotype.

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    • beejboytyson@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Some reason? Come on, not that complicated if you put yourself in a normal person head.

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      • Pelicanen@fedia.io ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Societally normalized biphobia?

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      • queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        normal person

        Sure, I can do that. quick question, by “normal” do you mean someone who has median characteristics across the board, or are you one of those people who define normal by their own tastes and experiences?

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      • Forester@pawb.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Way to out yourself as low value

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  • fyzzlefry@retrolemmy.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Huh? I’m bi and have been happily married for 30 years

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  • Honytawk@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    You mean like the sexuality of straight people can not be satisfied because there are other hotter people of the same sex as their spouse?

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