This was the advice I was given as a young man by my dad.
He told me that porn is an accurate as depiction of sex as Commando is an accurate as depiction of warfare.
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Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
I hear of more and more young women who are foregoing relationships and one big reason is the pornification of sex. It seems that no one born into the always online porn generation has real old fashioned sex anymore. It’s all porn mimicry. And not surprisingly, the majority of women don’t enjoy it since most porn isn’t about women’s enjoyment but their degradation and pain.
Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
But the importance of having a pithy one-liner ready to go whenever you finish someone off is real and true in both cases.
KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
As someone who has experienced neither, I agree!
homosapien@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
porn is evil
uberfreeza@lemmy.world 3 days ago
It goes the other way too, though. Since there’s limited porn meant for women, so the pool of porn women use ends up with overlap. It desensitizes the women too. I wouldn’t entirely agree, since there are people that just enjoy things that way, regardless of the porn they do or don’t view.
cloudshouter@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
Many moons ago there were intelligent people advocating for a serious upgrade to the sex ed programs. The usual idiots shut it down of course, but the idea was that, among other things, we need to teach sex ed in an age of online porn. Accept that kids who want sex will get sex, and that kids who want porn will find porn. Start teaching them that porn is as much fake, pandering entertainment as the WWE. Scripted, planned, consent and paperwork ahead of time, body makeup, dick makeup, permanent makeup under the runny makeup, they don’t show the prep, they don’t always show the lube. The orgasms are mostly fake (even the guys). Most women don’t like to be slapped or choked, especially without asking permission. In fact most women don’t want anything done to them that you don’t want want done to you.
My advice for young people, and really everyone, is that you someone can’t talk about sex and go buy condoms, they aren’t ready for sex. Communication about it before, during, and after makes for the best experience. Also, you can like things in porn that you wouldn’t do in real life.