Comment on Hands on the Door

kablez@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

• WormEmperor@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Did you ever figure out what he was trying to accomplish there? Or is it really just as stupid as it seems?

  source

  • kablez@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    No idea. Best guess it was stunted emotional development when he didn’t get his way. When I asked him why he treated total strangers better than he treats me, he started throwing glasses at a wall and screaming. All I could do at the time was apologise to calm him down.

    source

    • WormEmperor@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Yeah, impossible to say whether calculated or purely a man child throwing tantrums. Either way, no excuse to be that shitty of a person. Hope you’re doing much, much better now.

      source

      • pr0sp3kt@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        I would love to hear the counterpart.

        source
    • Malica@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      That guy had a high chance of snapping and killing you, glad you got out ok

      source
    • k0e3@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      One time we were home and everything was fine so I asked him why he treated total strangers better than he treats me.

      This is so weird to read. If he was mistreating you, how was everything fine? Or if everything was fine, why suddenly bring that up? I’d be pretty annoyed—not throwing shit to these annoyed, mind you—if my wife was suddenly like, “uhh hey so why do you suck?”

      Obviously, his reaction is way out of line and I’m glad he’s not a part of your life.

      source

      • kablez@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        “Everything was fine” as in it was a moment in time where things seemed calm and normal. But I was still carrying a weight inside from suppressing my feelings.

        He had a habit of putting me down in front of our friends and making fun of things I liked just to get a rise out of me. That was something I carried with me for years and had tried to talk about before which resulted in a heated argument as well.

        Knowing the danger he presented when talking about things while driving as one example, I waited until it was a moment I thought would be safe.

        Turns out there was never a safe moment with that guy.

        source

        • -> View More Comments
• jade52@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  heyyyy are you me? Also wasted 9 years on an asshole that drove like a fucking raging douchebag. Sorry that happened to you.

  source
• Stolas@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  That’s terrifying.

  I’ve always gotten scared whenever I’ve seen any of my partners experience road rage, so I don’t know if I could handle that.

  source
• someone_01@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Ok that’s… i really dk I feel speechless…

  source
• SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  I need to start telling women I drive a Peugeot station wagon. If that fact doesn’t shout “stable and sane”, I don’t know what could.

  source
• FishFace@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  When my partner gets frustrated at other vehicles, she does the only remotely scary things I’ve witnessed - accelerates a bit more sharply, yells “for fucks sake!” and such.

  I can’t imagine how is react if it was as bad as what you described.

  source
• personalhel@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  an abusive ex did similar things to me. covid gave me time to think and saved my life.

  source
• Malica@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Don’t think of it as waste, you’ve learned from those years

  source