Comment on Discussion Thread 🦕 Sunday 13 September 2026
tombruzzo@aussie.zone 1 week agoNo, I think that’s fair enough. Parents offer to help out with things then put the weirdest conditions on their help.
It sounds like they want a holiday home in the city but are taking the “cheap” option by helping you buy a place
No. Parents don’t. I don’t and have never and never would.
talk, discuss, respect, compromise,
and if you give something it is theirs to do with as they wish
If the parents want a half share in an apartment they can use they should at minimum have it legal.
And why should Alamut have to pay rates, insurance and expenses on their room?
You’re one of the good parents then. I was facing similar restrictions when my dad helped me finance the car. He’d been doing too much YouTube research by what sounded like very bias channels and had very specific ideas on what sort of car he would like me to get
I really do try very hard to respect Miss Seagoon’s judgement and personal preferences. I am very much of the belief that everyone in a family is equal and has equal say. Might not have say so or responsibility but everyone counts.
For example, Miss Seagoon might not like a B’day present I got her. That’s fine. She can give it away to a friend who does like it. She has other gifts and I will get her another thing. It’s not a problem.
That’s good to hear. I can get a bit caught up on things like I don’t want to donate the kids’ toys I bought so soon because I’m the one that picked them out and paid for them, but I need to acknowledge they’ve often moved on from things
Alamutjones@aussie.zone 1 week ago
I’m honestly on board with hosting people at need. I have a brother interstate, I have a sister and her kids in Gippsland, my parents are in Mornington.
“I’m in town for a thing, can I use your place?” is honestly a really sensible question.
I just…assumed it would be somewhere that I got to use for something when no one else was. A comfy chair and maybe a bookshelf for my National Geographics would have done, so the room wasn’t wasted space when I was the only one living there.