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Comment on Discussion Thread 🦕 Sunday 13 September 2026

Pilk@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

My heart sunk for you reading that. I obviously don’t know all the discussion you had about arrangements before you starting looking, but it seems like a massive assumption on their part that helping you get into home ownership entitles them to claim part of the space for themselves.

Going from a place that is 0% yours to one that is only 60% yours isn’t the point at all.

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Alamutjones@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
I knew from day one that the guest room would by primarily “for them”. I wouldn’t have my desk in there, for example, it would be a dedicated bedroom.

I didn’t realise that I wasn’t supposed to have ANYTHING of mine in there. I honestly just want a shelf for my National Geographics and a comfy chair. I just want it to be a room that still exists in my home

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- Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago
  I don’t understand why they would want to erase you from that room
  
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  - Alamutjones@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago
    My stepmother is immunocompromised. A lot of her town visits are medical in nature.
    
    I think she’s worried about me using “their bathroom” instead of “my bathroom” because it’s closer/getting budgie feathers all over it/etc. Not being able to guarantee it as an appropriate guest space when she’s here to see a doctor.
    
    I think that’s a fair thing to take jnto account. It has to be somewhere she can feel safe when she’s ill. I fully agree that the guest suite isn’t a primary living space for me in the way that my own bedroom is. But because I know about the need for the medical stuff, I wouldn’t actually do any of the stuff she’s worrying about. It’s a guest space first.
    
    I feel as though I should be able to store stuff in the wardrobe, or have some bookshelves in a corner, or hang one of my pictures above the bed, without making it any less welcoming for guests
    
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