Yes, I do agree that you have a level of personal responsibility towards yourself - and that you owe it to yourself to make the best of the hand you're dealt.
But turning 18 doesn't suddenly absolve your parents of their failings.
If they failed to teach Anon the basic life skills that would help them to be a proper member of society, then that is still their failure - even if it is a failure being further exacerbated by Anon themselves.
As @some_kind_of_guy said, your last paragraph negates itself...
A good parent would've forced Anon to learn those skills, and wouldn't just stand-by going "they're an adult now, not my problem" - nor would they coddle them and allow them to be a NEET. Both are forms of neglectful parenting, as I said its a lifetime job.
some_kind_of_guy@lemmy.world 1 week ago
Having “the best parents” would preclude that possibility, though. Your “what-if” is a non-sequitur, it doesn’t follow.
avocado@programming.dev 1 week ago
Each person is the result of their genetics, upbringing, friend circle, life experiences etc. Having the best parents doesn’t guarantee you turning out well.
Also nothing personal but using big words like this when you can express much simpler, comes off very pretentious.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 week ago
no it doesn’t.
plenty of shitty people i know had wonderful parents. and some great people had shitty ones.
it’s a matter of the choices the person makes.