I just wanted to add that it’s still incredibly painful after these steps, therapy ain’t over then. Still worth it though. Be kind to your inner child, especially if they’re still crying inside.
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Funkt4st1c@lemmy.world 5 hours agoIts the first step in therapy.
Blame parents, forgive parents, realize you now control your future, realize youve controlled your actions and future the entire time, forgive yourself.
Most people are hovering step 1 and 2, or skip over step 2
Malyca@lemmy.zip 4 hours ago
LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
I thought we all just don’t do the forgiving ourselves thing. And avoid the mirror so you don’t have to kick that guy’s ass for looking at you like id look at me
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 4 hours ago
Without going through steps 1 and 2 it’s impossible to get to steps 3, 4, and 5 without feeling gaslit and invalidated just like you always were growing up, which can rehash and reinforce the trauma, perpetuating the cycle.
That’s what society in general, and people who had healthy parents, don’t understand. They want us all to skip to the end of the process, ignoring the fact that not everyone was so fortunate to be raised by emotionally intelligent people.
A very basic understanding of developmental psychology is all it takes to see how significantly the influences of one’s formative years can impact their social and emotional development long into adulthood.
cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 31 minutes ago
and in severe cases, lifelong health issues, such as autoimmnue disorders, suicidal ideation, etc. thanks mom and dad!
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 18 minutes ago
Yes. You deserved better than what you got. Unfortunately the only requirement for becoming parents is a pair of working genitals.
I hope you’ve found or are finding the healing and support that you need.