Depends entirely on the age.
If some 30 year old who never had a job and is trying get rich quick schemes like crypto while still living at home, then they deserve to be talked down to.
Comment on Anon joins his family for Christmas dinner
amio@kbin.social 11 months agoPublically and condescendingly berating a (presumably) grown man in front of his entire family, infantilizing him and the crypto thing, the little power demonstration with the drinks, getting everyone to laugh at the poor jobless bastard?
Not sure how wholesome that seems to me. Chewing someone out in public, especially at dinner, is asshole behavior. Being overbearingly "positive" about it on the surface doesn't really help.
Honytawk@lemmy.zip 11 months ago
NoSpiritAnimal@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Imagine being a guest at this dinner and watching this guy belittle his (admittedly not doing great) son in front of you as some sort of weird familial power play while airing the families dirty laundry.
I don’t care if Dad is correct, Dad is just as socially retarded as son. It’s where son learned it.
amio@kbin.social 11 months ago
Exactly this. I have no idea how people are justifying dragging someone through the mud in front of people. Imagining being anon is obviously rough (which is probably why someone posted this almost certainly hypothetical scenario), but just having a place at this table would be extremely awkward.
TORFdot0@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Your child being a jobless loser isn’t justification to publicly shame them in front of family. Especially because you are enabling them. How about instead of shaming them you kick them out of the house?
jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 11 months ago
How to turn a jobless loser into a meth addicted street urchin.
TORFdot0@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Hey meth ain’t free, congratulations you fixed the failure to launch problems
TragicNotCute@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I’d argue they weren’t berating him. Nothing in that statement implied they were angry. They just want better for him and will hold him (at least partially) accountable (by not letting him drink).
amio@kbin.social 11 months ago
OK, whether the specific term "berating" is semantically correct or not, that's not particularly relevant to whether or not it's decent behavior. It is still an ostentatious, infantilizing putdown of anon. In company, and in a setting that's looking a lot like "dinner with the extended family".
Even if anon is the deadbeatiest deadbeat to ever deadbeat, that is... asshole behavior. Pure and simple. Maybe the anon of this fake greentext deserves that?
yata@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
It’s fiction. I still don’t understand how so many of you take all these posts as descriptions of something that actually occurred.
thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
If I’m going to work every day to support your fat lazy adult ass while you blow money on jpgs of monkeys I’m within my rights to bust your balls about it and you’re lucky I haven’t thrown you out and turned your basement into a home gym
amio@kbin.social 11 months ago
Maybe, for some definition of "rights". If doing it in public, it would still 100% make you an asshole no matter how right you were.
thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
Agreed. It sounds like this is a family dinner at home, though. Anons family already know he’s a loser.
Perfide@reddthat.com 11 months ago
My interpretation was this was Christmas dinner, and they had extended family & friends over.
Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Because feeding their depression is the best way to fix the problem.
thecrotch@sh.itjust.works 11 months ago
If he believes it’s his parents job to fix him that’s about 75% of the problem right there
Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 11 months ago
There’s a difference between not helping and actively hurting. “Though love” is just bullshit.
Sheeple@lemmy.world 11 months ago
That’s what being a parent is about though.
snekerpimp@lemmy.world 11 months ago
“MOM, MEATLOAF! FUCK! I never know what she’s doing up there”