That’s not normal, go see a gynecologist.
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IEatCeleryAt7Degrees@lemmy.world 3 days agoThanks. How do you push yourself past the phase where the pain makes your eyes blur and water? I get to about just over an inch up and that’s when I’ll be screaming to stop because it hurts too much. And that was with loads of lubrication. Is there anything I can do to increase my pain tolerance down there? I want to make sure he’s happy.
Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 3 days ago
breezeblock@lemmy.ca 3 days ago
You’re not “making a big deal” — what’s happening to you is real — is also real that this doesn’t happen to everyone. What you’re feeling is not universal.
Carl@anarchist.nexus 3 days ago
You may be dealing with vaginismus, which is a condition where the vaginal muscles involuntarily tense up in anticipation of insertion. It can make sex (or any other kinds of insertion, like tampons or pelvic exams) extremely painful, because you’re stretching the tensed muscles the same way a muscle cramp would.
It’s largely considered a psychological condition, because it is typically based on anxiety surrounding the insertion. And that anxiety can quickly become self-perpetuating, as pain from insertion will likely cause future anxiety. Therapy (and practice) can help alleviate that anxiety, which can alleviate the tensed muscles, which alleviates the pain.
isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 days ago
Have you tried using a set of medical dilators?
disregardable@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
That doesn’t happen. Like, it has never hurt that much. You’re going to need to seek treatment for vaginismus.