the corrosion of two personalty that reshape each other until they’re incompatible, I guess. but also a lot of dysfunction. I got so good at being a grey rock in the face of they l their exciting need to be excited by constantly fighting that they got bored of trying to get a reaction out of me and I got tired of the panic attacks and suicidal thoughts. Anyway, separation has been nice, but having kids means you’re locked into a kind of relationship that necessitates mutual good faith cooperation so it’s a nightmare. REALLY don’t have kids with people you haven’t lived with first for several years. 6mo whirlwind relationships are a bad place to invest the next 20+ years of your life.
well if anything else, please care about yourself. it’s deeply important if you want to have any shot at a relationship that actuality involves love and trust.
Snowclone@lemmy.world 1 month ago
the corrosion of two personalty that reshape each other until they’re incompatible, I guess. but also a lot of dysfunction. I got so good at being a grey rock in the face of they l their exciting need to be excited by constantly fighting that they got bored of trying to get a reaction out of me and I got tired of the panic attacks and suicidal thoughts. Anyway, separation has been nice, but having kids means you’re locked into a kind of relationship that necessitates mutual good faith cooperation so it’s a nightmare. REALLY don’t have kids with people you haven’t lived with first for several years. 6mo whirlwind relationships are a bad place to invest the next 20+ years of your life.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 month ago
Sorry, I guess you do what you have to do until they are 18.
No, I cannot do therapy, simply not feasible atm at all. Not time-wise, not economy wise, I’d get fired for that here.
Snowclone@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
well if anything else, please care about yourself. it’s deeply important if you want to have any shot at a relationship that actuality involves love and trust.