Comment on My world has just been shattered

• rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  oof. Glad I dodged that bullet. She broke up with me less than a year after I proposed. After time and separation, I realized how fucking bad that relationship was

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• WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  But…why?

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  • Snowclone@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    the corrosion of two personalty that reshape each other until they’re incompatible, I guess. but also a lot of dysfunction. I got so good at being a grey rock in the face of they l their exciting need to be excited by constantly fighting that they got bored of trying to get a reaction out of me and I got tired of the panic attacks and suicidal thoughts. Anyway, separation has been nice, but having kids means you’re locked into a kind of relationship that necessitates mutual good faith cooperation so it’s a nightmare. REALLY don’t have kids with people you haven’t lived with first for several years. 6mo whirlwind relationships are a bad place to invest the next 20+ years of your life.

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    • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Sorry, I guess you do what you have to do until they are 18.

      No, I cannot do therapy, simply not feasible atm at all. Not time-wise, not economy wise, I’d get fired for that here.

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      • Snowclone@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        well if anything else, please care about yourself. it’s deeply important if you want to have any shot at a relationship that actuality involves love and trust.

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