Comment on that’s why it’s just a summer fling

• SaltyIceteaMaker@lemmy.ml ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  nah they got a point, thats the typa post id expect to see on 4chan right before they invent a new slur that no one will ever use

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  • did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    nah, relegating a woman’s expression of libertinage, vanity, or playful detachment to the realm of “inceldom” is deeply puritanical. it suggests that women aren’t allowed to be chaotic, selfish, or purely driven by the ego-boost of the chase. it assumes women must only want wholesome, committed love & be passive, relationship-seeking partners

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    • SaltyIceteaMaker@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      being selfish and ego-boost driven is kinda bad no matter the gender

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• DeLancre@piefed.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I will be honest, I’m somewhat proud of my proficiency level in English, especially considering I learned russian and German in school.

  But your comment confuses me, cause I don’t understand half of it.

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  • tourist@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    Don’t worry about it. Your English is probably fine.

    I’m high and also kinda struggled to understand it

    I think this is the first time I’ve seen the word “libertinage”

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  • SaltyIceteaMaker@lemmy.ml ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    same here, had to read 3 times and rely on context. it does seem like they are using complex language just for the sake of using complex language

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• usualsuspect191@lemmy.ca ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Change your perspective and imagine the meme was made by a (male) incel and you’ll get what they were getting at.

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  • did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    i’m imagining it. the content doesn’t change, so the meaning of the meme doesn’t change (fun without commitment). the only thing that could cause someone to label it as “incel” is, ironically, the reader’s own biases about women.

    my points still stand.

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    • nyctre@piefed.social ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Guy that’s mad because he’s been flirting with a woman and wants to get with her but she explains to him that she doesn’t wanna be with him but just wants him to want her.

      It’s not how I read it initially, but hear me out…

      Wants to get in a relationship but can’t? Check. Blames the woman for it? Check Incel’s perspective checks out, imo.

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      • did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        again, this “interpretation” only works if the reader already has certain biases about women - specifically that women owe men a monogamous, serious, long term relationship, and wanting something casual, fun, noncommittal makes them “bad” somehow. which is the real misogynistic perspective.

        and the meme doesn’t blame the woman in any way at all. the woman just doesn’t want a relationship & wants some fun without commitment. that’s it. anything else is just the reader projecting their own biases.

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  • Honytawk@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    So like a guy who is just in it for the sex?

    Yeah, the person portrayed would still be the problem.

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