I tell her nearly every day, my kids have joined in. She still refuses to believe it.
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Signtist@bookwyr.me 3 weeks ago
10 years ago I told my girlfriend I’d get her to admit she’s beautiful one day. She’s my wife now, and I still haven’t managed it. I’m glad she’s going to therapy now to try to get a better self image, but I’d have kept trying for the rest of my life regardless.
Th3D3k0y@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Little1Lost@gehirneimer.de 3 weeks ago
maybe try asking if she trusts your (and your kids) judgement, if she says yes follow up with the compliment
If she says no maybe try to direct it like everything you say is wrong and then give a very obvious "anti-compliment"It should at least give a new reaction
RBWells@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I tell my husband he sees with the eyes of love. Of course what he sees is better than what I see, but I still think I’m closer to objective about my looks. So while I absolutely appreciate his perception of my looks, no I don’t trust it.
Signtist@bookwyr.me 3 weeks ago
Yeah, my wife will often respond with “I know you think I’m beautiful” which I think means the same thing. But that’s kinda the point - beauty isn’t objective. If someone can see you’re beautiful, that means you’re beautiful, because we’re the ones who made up the concept, so we get to decide what meets the cutoff. Now, yes, that means you can decide that you don’t meet the cutoff, but why do that?
rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
You haven’t tried the classic “if you’re beautiful say what”?
Signtist@bookwyr.me 3 weeks ago
I almost got her with something similar a couple days ago, but she caught on.
HerbalGamer@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
“Huh? No.”
Janx@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
What?