I can relate. I’m a full-throttle person too. Take care of yourself.
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may_be@thelemmy.club 2 days agoNo, not super recently. Maybe a few months ago? So… fairly so. Anyway, yeah. I probably also have a mental disorder which is no excuse but could explain it. I’ve always been like this.
dohpaz42@lemmy.world 2 days ago
adespoton@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
A few months is recent; the plant analogy is apt here, because often you plant in the fall before the frost, then have to wait a full 6 months before you see any results. But when you see results, that doesn’t mean it’s harvest time; you’ve sometimes got another 3 months of nurture before you start seeing a harvest.
And then you’ve got to put in that effort all over again, and some plants just won’t make it.
Exiting that analogy, relationships are a dance. Meet people where they are. Pay attention to how much they’re bringing to the relationship. Bring a similar amount yourself, and carefully add a bit more over months if you see a balance there.
If you find out they just wanted a single dance, or don’t like your style, accept it, appreciate what you were able to enjoy together, and go look for another dance partner, using what you learn along the way.
may_be@thelemmy.club 2 days ago
thank you :D i just told her an apology and am waiting for a response.