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velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

but defaulting to male pronouns (which traditionally are all encompassing) is also fine, IMO

And @thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com doesn’t find the assumption that everyone is male, if not stated, fine.

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teslekova@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
Ah, but in those languages, and ours up til recently, male was the accepted gender-neutral default. We decided to change it, collectively, as part of the general nudging towards gender equality, but for many, many people, including me, it genuinely did not assume maleness to use he/him.

However, I thought it might subconsciously affect me in a reactionary conservative way to keep doing so in the face of a reasonable request to use they/them instead of he/him, so I consciously changed it.

I cannot say whether it works like that in other languages, though. French has all sorts of gender bullshit for chairs and lamps and whatever, who’s to say how it affects the mind?

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- velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  Considering the reaction here, no, we did not collectively change to using gender neutral terms.
  
  You don’t assume maleness is he/him is used?
  
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forbiddencherry@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
Right, I was disagreeing with them on those points.

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- velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
  Right, but whose to say your opinion holds more weight than thunderwolf’s?
  
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  - forbiddencherry@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
    You’re the only person that said that. Quit gatekeeping.
    
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    velma@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago
    Clearly I’m not the only one saying it.
    
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