Intentionally misgendering is offensive, but that’s not what happened here, in my opinion. There’s nothing in their profile so sure going neutral with they/them is probably a safer option, but defaulting to male pronouns (which traditionally are all encompassing) is also fine, IMO. If they had a preference that they cared about then they would specify it.
velma@sh.itjust.works 8 hours ago
And @thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com doesn’t find the assumption that everyone is male, if not stated, fine.
teslekova@sh.itjust.works 2 hours ago
Ah, but in those languages, and ours up til recently, male was the accepted gender-neutral default. We decided to change it, collectively, as part of the general nudging towards gender equality, but for many, many people, including me, it genuinely did not assume maleness to use he/him.
However, I thought it might subconsciously affect me in a reactionary conservative way to keep doing so in the face of a reasonable request to use they/them instead of he/him, so I consciously changed it.
I cannot say whether it works like that in other languages, though. French has all sorts of gender bullshit for chairs and lamps and whatever, who’s to say how it affects the mind?
forbiddencherry@lemmy.today 6 hours ago
Right, I was disagreeing with them on those points.
velma@sh.itjust.works 6 hours ago
Right, but whose to say your opinion holds more weight than thunderwolf’s?
forbiddencherry@lemmy.today 4 hours ago
You’re the only person that said that. Quit gatekeeping.