Comment on most perverted men are actually very vanilla and run away when faced with a perverted woman
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 days agoI mean as a woman, I’ll gladly be beaten, I play with electricity and fire, and I’ve been in the leather community and power exchange scene most of my adult life, but rimming will take some convincing
sharkweek@sopuli.xyz 2 days ago
Really?
OK then, let me convince you - after a previous bad experience I just stick to the outside, where it’s easy to check everythings clean. You can even make cleaning the area part of the play.
If you tie down your sub with their backside in the air, and reduce their senses with a blindfold, hood, or whatever, it can be a very very intense sensation for them. Plus, it can be a surprise, especially if mixed in with more harsh forms of play. I’ve never bothered with consent for rimming just on the outside, assuming they’ve consented to traditional s/m activities.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Ok yeah if someone wanted to do that to me I might give it a shot. But yeah I wouldn’t be happy if she did it to me without a heads up
sharkweek@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
Ah ok, I assumed your objection would be for giving rather than receiving … typically “I don’t do butt stuff” crops up in conversation before you tie someone up, and that I would respect
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Like, yeah I’m definitely not giving it, that’s not up for debate though. Receiving is where there’s room to discuss.
And it’s not like I’ve never done butt stuff, it’s just that I’ve learned to accept that I just generally prefer to stick to the other side. Especially now that I’m getting older and dealing with hemorrhoids. These days I feel butts are for hitting, grabbing, and displaying handkerchiefs.