Comment on most perverted men are actually very vanilla and run away when faced with a perverted woman
AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 2 days agoAs a straight dom male, I can tell you that the inverse is also true. Straight sub women routinely want me to do stuff that isn’t BDSM and is actual abuse. I blame the 50 shades of grey series at least in part for that.
Straight sub women routinely want me to do stuff that isn’t BDSM and is actual abuse.
Give some examples?
I have very few restrictions when it comes to someone getting physical with me as long as it’s not permanent. I have found plenty of doms lacking because they express discomfort in rougher kinks. Light bruising is not abuse for example although you should probably take your time and get to know me well enough so that you trust I’m not crazy and that I won’t tell people you’re battering me.
One lady wanted me to choke her till she passed out. Another lady wanted a bag over her head. Another asked me to “punch me and leave bruises while I cum.” I could go on, but honestly it’s kinda disturbing. Then there are the people that confuse CNC with straight up rape. Rape fantasy is one thing. Asking me to organize a CNC “home breakin” with people that you specifically don’t know and have never met isn’t something I would have any idea how to do safely.
Someone keept telling me about how they wanted me to do CNC stuff, and I pretty much felt nauseous at hearing that shit.
Oh dear god do not do the donkey punch, no no no no, noooooo.
The first few are fine?
The last one is where I would draw the line, even if it involved vetting people off of fetlife.
There’s a difference between hard doms and soft doms. It sounds more like you’re the second and I don’t think that’s a bad thing. Some of us genuinely enjoy being hit and choked and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. It means we trust you enough to even ask at all. If it’s not something you enjoy or feel comfortable doing that is also fine.
Choking someone until they pass out is absolutely not fine. That’s extremely dangerous and will cause permanent harm. You shouldn’t should never be anywhere NEAR the point of losing consciousness.
I know choking can feel good, but there’s no safe way to do it aside from just putting your hand there and applying zero pressure. You’re literally depriving your brain of oxygen.
This gave me a bit of a giggle because I used to know a real one that will show off their work. Not as a trophy or anything, more like, “This is how bruised I’m willing to make someone.”
All pictures were taken from the neck down and with consent.
This unfortunately, too real. It’s really unfortunate that it’s gotten bad for both genders,
And I’m a straight dom male, I’m very chill but, a lot of women into things that make me nope out
StarryPhoenix97@lemmy.world 2 days ago
For sure. All of my friends in the community HATE 50 Shades of Grey