Comment on Discussion Thread 📚 Saturday 13 June 2026

• Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  My red flag detector is still being calibrated.

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  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    yes, this is a thing

    it’s not just learning, we have to unlearn the unproductive lessons we learnt in childhood, then rationally learn what we should have been taught , then use that new information a lot until it feels comfortable

    It took me a long time for my feelings to catch up with my rational mind when it comes to behaviours/red flags, especially subtle red flags .

    I think you’re doing great. 🏆😘

    can I say do not be afraid to confront triggers, real triggers that give you strong involuntary emotional reactions , they are huge clues as to what happened , follow the thought, follow the memories, defuse the trigger

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    • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I appreciate you posting this :)

      My problem is that im an outsider. And outsiders can pick each other out in a room full of people, within seconds.

      Now. Nothing wrong with being attracted to other outsiders. But there’s different flavours and you gotta be careful.

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      • Seagoon_@aussie.zone ⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Same regarding outsiders.

        There’s a million kinds of outsiders with a myriad of interests and traits and some are good people, some bad, some not so healthy to be around.

        Choose your friends wisely. 😘

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