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Comment on why is it never the 'close friend' who gets shit on?

As far as I’m concerned the relationship is over the instant my partner decides to cheat on me. Whether they get rejected or not. My friend telling me about it has the same end result either way. So I don’t really consider it a betrayal assuming they do tell me. The cheater was going to cheat sooner or later anyway might as well get it over with.

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ChexMax@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
Even if she’s immediately an ex due to her behavior, I think a lot of people would rather their close friends not sleep with an ex. It’s like, if you two fall in love after we’re over, you can’t stop love, but if you’re just getting your rocks off, there are plenty of fish

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- lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  I guess it’s just an each to their own thing. Once someone cheats on me I’m done with them. I don’t care what they do. None of my friends are stupid enough to get into an actual relationship with a known cheater but even if they did it’s not like it’d be the first time I had to ignore a SO someone was bringing around that I didn’t like.
  
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electric_nan@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
I don’t understand how you consider one action a betrayal of trust and not the other. Is your friendship also not over the instant your friend decides to sleep with your partner? I guess you have different kinds of friendships than I do.

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- lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
  None of my friends would try and initiate something like that. However if my friend tries to fuck my SO and my SO rejects them then I’m going to have a problem with my friend harassing my SO. If my SO goes along with it and cheats on me then my friend has revealed their my SO’s colors and that relationship wasn’t worth shit in the first place, they’ve done me a favor. No sense in also tanking a friendship over it.
  
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  - electric_nan@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Right on, but I just can’t relate.
    
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    lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago
    Yeah, this is just my own opinion I don’t expect everyone to agree. Everyone approaches relationships in their own way. Also want to say that just because I feel this way about it doesn’t mean I would ever be the friend being cheated with. Cheaters disgust me so I’d be on the phone immediately telling them about how they propositioned me. So maybe that makes me some kind of hypocrite.
    
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