I for one will not invite you for anything if I don’t want to do it with you. I also will not accept an invitation to do anything that I don’t want to do with you. I greatly enjoy my own company and have a lot of things I love to do by myself. More people would be happier if they would learn to like themselves and found some hobbies.
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But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world 4 days ago
I hate people now. Nobody wants to keep their commitments. You can invite people to an event and they will all say yes, until a more enticing thing comes along and the flake on you last minute. If you say yes, be there, tell the other person “sorry I already made plans that day” like an adult
Pat_Riot@lemmy.today 3 days ago
ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 3 days ago
For me the issue is that everyone is always busy.
Me: hey, how about we meet next Friday
Person1: I can only do Sunday from 17 to 19
Person2: I can only do Saturday
Person3: I can do Sunday but from 19 to 21
Person4: I can only do the Friday after that
Or even better, they take 5 days to reply and in the end say something came up.
But once I manage to find the one date that fits most people and plan something people do show up.
zqps@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Yeah I mean that makes sense, your friends respect prior commitments.
ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 3 days ago
Most of the time it’s not like they are meeting other people. The commitments are like family visits every other week, traveling, studying, fixing something at home and so on. Occasionally it’s some birthday party or something. It’s mostly that everyone is busy all the time. Which I do understand but it takes a lot of of effort to organize something.
zqps@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Studying and fixing something at home I can see, those you typically move around as needed. The other are prior commitments that you don’t.
MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
There was this serbice 10 - 15 years ago: you created a few possibilities, shared it and the shared-to could add where it fits. What was it’s name? And wouldn’t this also work as a local-wifi-only mobile app?
zqps@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
If you’re German, use nuudel.digitalcourage.de instead.
ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 3 days ago
Don’t remember the name but I used it couple of times in corpo settings. I think it weird that we have to organize meetings with couple of friends the same way we organized team buildings. I mean, weekends are for resting. Why everyone has everything booked months in advance? I spend every weekend actively but I don’t have a lot of plans that I can’t drop to meet someone.
MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
The secret of keeping self-organization flexible. Most people are less sensible to stress than us.