In my 20s I spent my weekends at the local gay bar. Drag shows. Better music. Better people.
I’m asexual so I was just there to dance and get tipsy.
There was always a hot drunk gal and her pervy bf trying to pick up women. I was pretty sure most of the time the chick wasn’t bi or even into it but was doing it to appeal to the guy.
Bro. You already have a hot gf. Stop being greedy. Go home.
They would try to grind up on you and if you said no thanks. They’d just wait a bit and try again. Try to buy you drinks.
Man. These people were the worst. I wasn’t the only person who encountered them regularly.
My friends all had stories.
The woman would first get your guard down. Right. You think you are just dancing with another friendly woman. Having a good time. She starts to get a little physical but it’s still in the range of acceptable for women. Because women are more comfortable around other women and we don’t assume it’s pervy. At first.
Then she starts trying to grind or something or kids you and you gotta be like. Hey. No. Let’s just do the other dancing we were doing. Then a flipping dude will pop up out of nowhere. They try to sandwich you.
These people were just the worst. They got known pretty fast though and then everyone shunned them.
They always went after the younger patrons too.
I had a friend where the dude straight up came behind her and grabbed her chest.
And she told me he 100% had an erection. We actually got the bouncer to kick that couple out.
No shame. No understanding boundaries.
They could ruin your evening if they targeted you.
deacon@lemmy.world 1 month ago
So they don’t sound awesome because other people do a related and horrible thing that there is no indication that they themselves do?
Just clarifying.