You associate the meal to her, if she does something without you, it inherently changes the meal. and now you dont like the new meal.
I associate the meal to the relationship. you get your meals, and her having a snack somewhere else will in no way change the meals that you get with her. And being upset about it is like complaining that your meal in a restaurant is bad because other people also ordered the same.
If the only consequences of cheating is your emotions and the damages comes from your reaction (don’t necessarily mean violent, I mean like breaking up) then the act itself might not be the bad thing but the way you react.
Life is too short to deny ourself relationships that bring us joy, and how cruel is to expect that from anyone, especially not those whom we love.
I disagree. I want my partner to respect my feelings, and care about not hurting my feelings, just as i respect their feelings and care about not hurting them
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
You associate the meal to her, if she does something without you, it inherently changes the meal. and now you dont like the new meal.
I associate the meal to the relationship. you get your meals, and her having a snack somewhere else will in no way change the meals that you get with her. And being upset about it is like complaining that your meal in a restaurant is bad because other people also ordered the same.
tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 weeks ago
I’m getting lost in the food analogy sorry, would you be willing to try and explain in a different manner?
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Not sure how to continue.
If the only consequences of cheating is your emotions and the damages comes from your reaction (don’t necessarily mean violent, I mean like breaking up) then the act itself might not be the bad thing but the way you react.
Life is too short to deny ourself relationships that bring us joy, and how cruel is to expect that from anyone, especially not those whom we love.
tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 weeks ago
I disagree. I want my partner to respect my feelings, and care about not hurting my feelings, just as i respect their feelings and care about not hurting them