Comment on question for the culture
tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks agoDo you actually think its unethical to expect people not to lie? Trying to understand here, very far from my own set of beliefs :)
Comment on question for the culture
tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks agoDo you actually think its unethical to expect people not to lie? Trying to understand here, very far from my own set of beliefs :)
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
just saying, that if they need to lie to fulfill their needs, then there isn’t a relationship to begin with.
tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Makes sense, just your wording that confused me
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
i went into details on other aspects of monogamy I find internally unethical. Maybe cheating is bad, but at best it’s a victimless crime, as bad a cheating on a diet. rather than it being published with social isolation.
life it too short to set up relationships based on the denial of feeling for others.
tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
That i don’t get at all. I really don’t think it’s too much to expect honesty from your significant other. In my world, that’s about the one person where you owe absolute honesty, all other relations yeah lying ain’t THAT big a deal.
Lying to yourself (breaking a diet) i agree is a victimless crime, but lying to others isn’t, as that is at the expense of the person being deceived. Lying to a random ass person is of course much less a deal than lying to your significant other, and in both situations it’s of course also dependant on the thing being lied about. A vegetarian would be very mad about being told a lie that the meal they were being served is vegetarian if it actually contained meat, and rightfully so imo.
In i think that might be getting to the core of it. It might not be a big deal to you, and that’s of course totally okay and your right and just as natural as any other proposition, BUT, failing to recognize that this might be important to the person, and then proceed to lie about that thing just because you yourself don’t think it’s that big a deal, is not okay in my book.
For me, it’s about respecting the internal worldview of the other person, and recognizing that it is just as important as my own. If something is a deal breaker for my partner, i don’t give a rats ass how important I think it is, what’s important is respecting that my partner cares a great deal about it. And if my partner cannot show the same towards me, that’s not a relationship i want to be in. And we do all have the right to say no to a relationship we don’t want, right?