Comment on question for the culture
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks agoI mentioned somewhere here that I consider putting such expectations on someone unethical. If my partner has an affair they would tell me and I would be happy for her or neutral, but if they were hiding it, and lying then there was no really a relationship to begin with, just a lie that should end sooner than later.
And in another thread, I said that the social punishment for people who cheat is too severe, often being social isolation. For an infraction I would personally consider as bad as cheating on a diet. For something that causes no harm to anyone.
tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Do you actually think its unethical to expect people not to lie? Trying to understand here, very far from my own set of beliefs :)
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
just saying, that if they need to lie to fulfill their needs, then there isn’t a relationship to begin with.
tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Makes sense, just your wording that confused me
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
i went into details on other aspects of monogamy I find internally unethical. Maybe cheating is bad, but at best it’s a victimless crime, as bad a cheating on a diet. rather than it being published with social isolation.
life it too short to set up relationships based on the denial of feeling for others.