This is kind of a weird hill to die on, ngl.
Comment on Hard no bud
LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 13 hours agoIf you knew I’m a woman would you have called me “bud” and anything like a “lad?”
sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 13 hours ago
yakko@feddit.uk 12 hours ago
People are allowed to be particular about pronouns. I just tagged that account she/her, it’s not a hill unless we make it one. Helps if they do that themselves, but I can hardly criticise.
sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 12 hours ago
Not so much a criticism as trying to point out that you weren’t being malicious in your comment.
LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 12 hours ago
I know it sounds weird for me to complain every time someone assumes I’m a man, but if you’re a man, how would you feel if everyone on the internet automatically assumed you’re a woman? Calling you she & her & ma’am & sweetheart & lady. That would feel pretty weird, wouldn’t it?
That’s how I feel when people call me dude, bro, bud, lad, etc 🤷🏼♀️
sneakypersimmon@lemmy.today 12 hours ago
I’m a woman to start.
Your username gives no indication that you’re a woman and this site is overwhelmingly male. I’m never surprised when someone guesses I’m a man when we’re conversing initially. It’s not like the greatest thing in the world, but most people here are not misgendering me on purpose.
He didn’t call you a “lad”, he said you might have ADHD like his lad aka his son.
Bud feels like a pretty gender neutral term compared to dude, man, brother, etc.
yakko@feddit.uk 12 hours ago
I didn’t think either of us were particularly bent out of shape about it, pretty minor misunderstanding. I feel like we can all walk away friends unless we try to litigate this? I dunno
yakko@feddit.uk 13 hours ago
Maybe? I didn’t mean any offense, buddies are any gender for me and anyone can be like my kid, who happens to be a lad. At least until I’m notified to the contrary…