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• PhoenixDog@lemmy.world ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  You literally described a lot of what my partner deals with every day. We’ve been married for over 8 years and they still feel uncertainty that I will leave them, or they’ll go weeks without showering because that requires too many spoons and they’re insomniac and haven’t slept in 5 days and just eating a teacup amount of food when I make dinner for us.

  Doesn’t mean I don’t love them any less. Can it be frustrating? Of course. Can it be annoying? Of course. But I married this person because I love the person, disabilities and all.

  It’s not fetishizing anything. Their disabilities make them 1 of 1. I married an incredibly unique individual and I love them wholeheartedly. And all the positives I get out of the relationship greatly outweigh the negative quirks.

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  • Tiresia@slrpnk.net ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    That’s nice. I’m happy for you both.

    Your comment made it sound like you love her thanks to her disabilities, rather than because of who she is which includes her disabilities. That the disability positively affects your rating of her rather than it being an integral part of her when she is always good enough. I’m glad that isn’t the case, though I stand by my reaction being appropriate to what you wrote.

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    • PhoenixDog@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Love how you not only assumed the reasons I love my partner but also misgendered them at the same time.

      Maybe you should sit down and think about how you view others before judging them.

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      • Tiresia@slrpnk.net ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Sorry for the misgendering, I don’t know how I messed that up.

        I thought I was paraphrasing what you said. So if you still have the patience to help me out, could you explain how the things I said were wrong?

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    • kungen@feddit.nu ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      My keyboard psychologist also says that person has some kind of codependency issues… but if they’re truly happy, all’s good and I wish them well.

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• ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I can fix her.

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  • rumba@lemmy.zip ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    umm this is still a Wendy’s, can i take your order?

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• tabarnaski@sh.itjust.works ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Don’t kink shame them /s

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• Mac@mander.xyz ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I personally would consider psychological disorders or mental illnesses to be completely different to a personality disorder, but that’s not a common stance to have. Regardless, i hear you.

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  • zarkanian@sh.itjust.works ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    [This is what a personality disorder is.] (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personality_disorder) It includes stuff like paranoia, schizophrenia, depression, and bipolar disorder.

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    • Mac@mander.xyz ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Read my comment again.

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      • zarkanian@sh.itjust.works ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        It’s a rather silly comment. Experts get to decide how these things are defined. It would be like me saying “Personally, I consider a tree to be a type of rock, but I realize that isn’t a common opinion.”

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